Harness Your Power - On Being Empty

The last few weeks I have been struggling to find words.  As a speaker and writer, not having the words needed can be quite challenging.  I've sat down to write this blog several times and nothing, absolutely nothing comes out.  It baffles me.  Normally I have so much to say that I have to force myself to keep things short. 

I have realized that it is normal to be on empty at times.  Think of farming.  A farmer prepares the field for planting, puts the seeds in the ground, grows the crop and harvests it.  Then, the field MUST sit empty for a time while the soil regenerates so that it is ready for another cycle of producing crops.  The same goes for us as humans.  We need down time to rest and replenish, to regenerate and refill.

Why is it such a struggle to accept being on empty?  I think it's because we have been programmed to feel we must produce at top gear all the time.  We must get the results, make the mark and if you ever take a break then you will end up "behind everyone else."  So you better not sit back and take it easy.  That's the mentality I see all around me and yes, I see it in my mind too!

In a career that requires tremendous creativity, I am still learning that being without the words I need is simply part of the process.  I see that when I don't know what to write it is fine, I'm not meant to write.  I am learning to accept this emptiness and even enjoy it.  I find myself sitting and meditating.  I take time for doing things that require little creativity like washing dishes, cleaning out a closet, or enjoying a walk in nature.

The great thing is that the words do return!  And, in fact, they come back overflowing when my body, mind and spirit have had the chance to be renewed.

If you relate to this feeling of being empty I challenge you to come to accept this.  It's just one step in the process of growth and creativity.  Love the times where nothing comes to you.  Refuel yourself and be kind.  Do not judge yourself or feel as if something is wrong.  Everything is right on schedule.  When the creativity returns, you will have a new crop to share with the world around you.

I pray that you have a magnificent Christmas and New Year.
I am here to support you as a life coach and to encourage you to reach your full potential.

In humility and love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power - What Feelings Are You Avoiding?

I've been reading a new book this week called Women, Food and God.  The key insight I've gained is that often people eat because they want to escape the way they feel.  They turn to food to numb the inner discomfort rather than opening to whatever feelings they have.

Not only do people turn to food, they also turn to drugs.  I have a friend who has said to me on many occasions, "It is easier to get high than to deal with my pain.  My pain is so big that I can't face.  But I hate the way I feel so I have to numb myself with drugs."  Because she is unwilling to deal with her painful growing up years, she is adding even more layers of pain to her life right now because of her drug abuse and the drama that comes along with it.

I write all this as observation, not judgment.  I can see how I have used work or going to the gym in the same way.  Anytime the discomfort inside me called for my attention, I'd head to the gym to get lost in exercise or I'd open my computer and busy myself with assignments.

I'm learning more these days to sit with the uncomfortable feelings I have.  To just open to them and listen to the wisdom they offer me.  The painful emotions are signals that offer me guidance about my life and about myself.  I see that when I observe and engage with these feelings, they don't overwhelm me--they TEACH me and help me to grow.  In fact, a good cry or an intense moment of anger simply passes after I feel it and I come back to peace with a lighter heart.

Perhaps this week you could take some time to notice the ways in which you might be avoiding your feelings.  Do you use alcohol, drugs, food, sex, tv, work or something else to escape the inner discomfort you feel?   What if instead of turning to these addictions you actually sat in silence to listen to what you are being told by the emotion?

You may find more freedom than you have right now if you give this a try.

A fantastic holiday gift for a friend or family member is my new book, Clarify Your Purpose and Live It.  It is a simple, rich, easy-to-read book with exercises to guide you toward a satisfying, purposeful life:

http://www.amazon.com/Clarify-Your-Purpose-Patricia-Omoqui/dp/0982912900/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1291896883&sr=1-2

Sending you love this week,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.

Harness Your Power: Focus on Progress

There have been times on the path to my dreams that I didn't see major progress.  I have wondered, "Am I headed in the right direction?"  Yet, when I would look a bit closer, I could see bits of progress.  Small ones--but I could count it as progress nonetheless.

Take my coaching practice.  I met some coaches and knew in an instant that I wanted to be a life coach.  It started with taking a course in California.  Coming home, I created my business card.  I began telling people that I was a life coach.  A few people expressed interest and I took them on as unpaid clients. 

I'd coach in my lunch break and in the evening.  I coached in my car so I could have privacy.  (My clients didn't know because I was on the phone and highly professional).  I did whatever it was I needed to do to get myself launched.  After months of free coaching, I realized I had a gift.  Clients were expressing delight at the inner and outer changes they experienced.  I determined a fee.  The next client came along and I charged them some money for my work. 

At last, after months and months of focus, I was a paid life coach.  But, I was just at the beginning of building a coaching practice. 

It was a slow start.  It took patience--patience with myself and with life.  Yet, day by day, as I kept my focus, progress did come about.  There were many days that felt like literally nothing was happening.  But in the days with no visible developments, I was making inner strides forward.  I gained confidence and clarity about my calling.  I researched so I was prepared to have an intake form and a way to keep track of the sessions.

I share this to encourage you.  Go for your dreams.  Stay focused on your heart's calling.  You know what your passion is and you should never give up on it.  Don't get discouraged if you aren't moving as quickly forward as you thought you would.  Everything grows and unfolds in the perfect time.  Your part in the process is to be dedicated, disciplined and enjoy each step of the way.  Give yourself credit for every sign of progress and growth. 

Delight in the smallest movements forward.  Track them and smile.

My new book, Clarify Your Purpose and Live It, makes an excellent and reasonably priced Christmas Gift for the ones you love.  It is a "life-changing" book as someone told me today.  It can literally help you find a whole new level of purpose and meaning to your life if you read it and do the exercises.

Here's the link if you want to buy it on Amazon:  http://www.amazon.com/Clarify-Your-Purpose-Patricia-Omoqui/dp/0982912900/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1291144319&sr=8-2
With love,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power - Gratitude and Reflection

I have been counting my blessings lately.  Each night as I put my children to sleep I say a short prayer aloud with them listing the many gifts we experienced during the day --from food to a comfy bed to our health and safety.  In this Thanksgiving season I am consciously looking around my life and taking stock of all the positives.  I am even giving thanks for the challenges.

My older daughter, Maggie, is such a special person.  I celebrate her today because her diagnosis of Prader Willi Syndrome has given her a challenging life path.  As her mom, I walk through each of these difficulties with her.  She amazes me.  She is fearless, confident and full of love.  She does her best each day.  She is a happy human being who only wishes good for others. 

Being the mom of a special needs child is a rich experience.  There is a sweetness to seeing Maggie develop. She has to work so hard to do some of the basic things most children do with ease.  I see that there is a big difference in her life journey than in the journey of her peers.  I constantly remind myself that there is no "normal." 

Each human is here for a particular purpose.  We come in all shapes and sizes with a variety of challenges.  We are here to learn and grow into our personal best.  And, most importantly, we are here to join with one another in love and connection.  Maggie's special gift is connection.  She has charm.  People adore her immediately.  Her rosey, soft cheeks glow when she smiles.

I have an angel in my family and her name is Maggie.
I thank God for this angel and for her sister angel Skye.

May we each find the goodness and beauty in our greatest challenges,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/ 

Harness Your Power: Enjoy the simple things

It is easy to get caught up in striving to achieve the big title, more money and the recognition of others.  In doing so we often load our schedules to the maximum, pushing ourselves to the point of exhaustion.

These days I am finding such joy in the little, simple things in life.  From moments of snuggling with one of my daughters to enjoying a hot cup of tea -- these small gifts add richness to life IF we notice and relish the moment.

As the Thanksgiving and Christmas holiday times approach, I recommend that you incorporate relaxation and quiet into the mix.  You don't have to rush around.  You don't have to be in an over-scheduled frenzy.  You have a choice to move at a slower pace if you wish, and as you do, take in the feel of the cold air on your cheek, the smile of a child sledding down a hill or the aroma of the turkey coming from the oven. 

The gifts of life abound.  How many of these marvels are you taking the time to experience?

I challenge you this week to slow down and breathe.  Stop for a moment and take in your surroundings.  Engage all of your senses and unite with the moment of life you are in.  You may find your life is filled with treasures you have been overlooking.

Slowing my pace with you,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: From Judgment to Understanding

The last week I have been observing the hurt and pain that is caused when human beings judge one another. 

The woman being judged is one of the kindest, most accepting people I have met.  Yet, several people in her life have judged her as "inadequate" and "incapable" of achieving her dream.  They don't see the countless hours she is alone in her office working.  They don't know and can't see the growth she has experienced through life's difficulties the past few years.  All they see is that from their perspectitve, she hasn't "made progress" in the way they think she should.

Here is what the woman expressed to me, her words fuelled by anger and said in a frustrated shout, "I don't understand.  I could judge them too.  I could find all their faults and shortcomings.  But I don't do this.  I look for their best.  I know they can change in the areas of their lives where they aren't doing well.  I don't dictate their future by focusing on their past.  I listen to them when they speak and try to understand their concerns.  I offer encouragement rather than judgment.  Why can't they do this for me too?" 

So the story goes -- judgment creates misunderstanding causes pain and hurt, destroys relationships and in the end, does nothing good for anyone involved in the situation.

I sat last night and imagined the situation differently.

What if each person in the situation were willing to expand their point of view, to look at the good in each other?  Couldn't they actively seek to understand their differences of perception?  Wouldn't the variety of cultures and ideas that each person has bring a richness of creativity if they were all able to talk calmly and lovingly to one another?

I know this could be possible.  The key shift needed would be for each person to move from judgment to a desire to understand. 

Instead, there is silence right now from the hurt each person feels.

My suggestion this week is to notice if you are judging people in your life.  Who do you see as inadequate?  Who do you think just isn't doing well enough?  Who has shortcomings?  Write the names of the people that have come to mind down on paper. 

For each of the people you have listed, answer this question, "What good can I find in this person?  In what ways is this person a fantastic human being?"  Jot your answers down.  Notice that you can find good anywhere you choose to.  The focus you have is always a choice.

Let's create a world where we offer understanding rather than harsh judgment.
After all, isn't that what you desire to receive from others in your life.
Give to others that which you long to receive.

With understanding,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: It's Not Personal Unless You Make it So!

(No, that is not a picture of me!)

Too often we take what other people say and do as a personal attack.  I've learned that other people are entitled to their own opinions, judgments and perceptions.  It's up to me whether I allow what they are saying to upset me or if I see what they are offering as simply information to consider.

Here's a good story I found on the subject:

A tale is told about the Buddha, Gautama (563-483BC), the Indian prince and spiritual leader whose teachings founded Buddhism. This short story illustrates that every one of us has the choice whether or not to take personal offence from another person's behaviour.



It is said that on an occasion when the Buddha was teaching a group of people, he found himself on the receiving end of a fierce outburst of abuse from a bystander, who was for some reason very angry.


The Buddha listened patiently while the stranger vented his rage, and then the Buddha said to the group and to the stranger, "If someone gives a gift to another person, who then chooses to decline it, tell me, who would then own the gift? The giver or the person who refuses to accept the gift?"


"The giver," said the group after a little thought. "Any fool can see that," added the angry stranger.


"Then it follows, does it not," said the Buddha, "Whenever a person tries to abuse us, or to unload their anger on us, we can each choose to decline or to accept the abuse; whether to make it ours or not. By our personal response to the abuse from another, we can choose who owns and keeps the bad feelings."

Are you accepting negative "gifts" from others?  You don't have to.  You always have a choice of whether you take in what another person offers you.
 
Choose wisely.  Each choise affects the quality of your life experience.
 
With a wish for peace,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Transform Self-Doubt

You walk into a room.  You start to think, "Do I fit in here?  My clothes aren't as nice as hers.  My handbag and shoes are last season.  I wonder if they think I'm fat.  I feel so out of place here."

You put on your smile and start interacting with the other guests.  The voice in your head keeps chattering, "This person seems so accomplished.  They seems important and well-connected.  I don't measure up.  I wonder what they think of me.  Oh no.  What I said didn't make any sense.  Why can't I do better at having these conversations?"

Self-critical thinking can sabotage us.  It keeps us from being relaxed and at ease.   It hinders us from enjoying each moment of life.  It gets in the way of a bold, confident approach to conversations. 

I know about this kind of thinking because I have moments of it myself.  I've studied my own self-critical thought patterns for several years now.  As I observed my mind closely, I saw that I was my own worst enemy.  I was harder on myself than anybody else.  In fact, I'd never say to others the type of harsh judgmental words I would say to myself.  I've learned that this type of thinking need not control me.

When my mind starts down these negative paths, I stop.  I take a few deep breaths.  I then refocus my mind on the wonderful, unique aspects of who I am:  "I am a woman full of courage and love.  I have gifts and talents, unique ones.  I embrace and love myself for who I am. I stand tall and confident.  I love learning and growing.  I relax and choose to focus my mind on the good in myself and in others.  I am here on Earth for a reason."

That new thinking energizes me.  It ignites my inner light.  It clears away the clouds of comparison with others so I can really listen to another person when I am having a conversation.  I become more effective when I love and affirm myself.

This week I offer you a challenge.  Take a day and observe your mind.  Pay particular attention to the self-talk you have.  What do you say about yourself?  Are you critical?  Write down any negative or judgmental things you have thought about yourself.  Become aware of how often you "beat yourself up" in your mind. 

Now, take your list of thoughts and transform them one by one.  Consider the question, "What good can I see in myself?  What gifts do I have to offer?  What are all the great things about myself?"  Write down as many empowered, positive statements as you can.  If you can't think of any, seek some help from a trusted, loving friend. 

We are each amazing people.
We become more remarkable as we honor ourselves in our thoughts.

Seeing the best in me and seeing the best in you,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Breathe!

Stressed?  Overwhelmed?  Pressured and worn down?

Perhaps you could use a break.  Why not create small moments of peace and new energy by switching off all electronic devices and sitting in total silence?  You could go into nature to do this.  Or, you could use the living room couch.  You could even do this in the car.

For five full minutes breathe in and out as deeply as you can.  Feel your breath moving in and out of your body.  Notice how amazing this breath can be.   Let it fill you.  Quiet your mind and simply relax into the moment.  Be.  Simply be present where you are.  Choose a one word mantra like "peace" or "joy" or "calm" or "relaxed" and focus solely on that word as you breathe in and out.

It is okay to disengage from everything and everyone and take a few minutes to refresh and revive yourself. 

Just do it.
Just breathe.
Just step away from the noise (inner and outer).
Just give yourself a few minutes of delicious quiet.

You deserve peace.
Why not create it with this simple daily exercise?

I'm doing the exercise with you this week.

With love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: My Motto

Simple ideas can create revolutionary change.

My motto has become, "I do what I can, with the resources I have, where I am RIGHT NOW!"  I use this affirmation in all aspects of life. 

Each of us has the power to create positive change in our personal lives, in our professional lives and in our nations.  Yet, so often we get stuck thinking, "I just don't have enough money or time yet to make the personal change or the purposeful impact I want to make."  I'm here to tell you this week, you do have what is needed.

Think of it this way, sometimes the greatest transformations come from the smallest things -- shifts in thought patterns lead to radical life changes.  Often, a simple, loving act like listening to a friend can change the course of a person's life.  Sometimes a smile to a stranger can change the feel of their day.  Don't wait to create change.  Start today.

Do what you can.
Use whatever inner resources you have if you feel that your bank account isn't low enough to use your finances.
Start where you are with the people who are currently in your life.
Do it RIGHT NOW.  Yes, the call for taking action is TODAY!

Our assignment this week is twofold:

1.  Follow through and take the next daily step in the road to your personal transformation.  Make the phone call you know needs to be made.  Write your vision for your life down on paper.  Get your resume updated or get the business plan together.  You know you are ready for great changes so don't wait another day to do one small thing.

2.  Do something, some small thing with great love, to brighten another person's life.  If you want to use money to do so, great!  If not, get creative and show love in a cost-free high-impact way.  Who in your life needs some extra kindness?  Seek them out and offer them compassion today.

The small things done with great love add up to the lasting legacy of love we leave. 

Post this simple motto in a place you can see it each morning so that you remember the power you have!

With love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Carrying the Legacy Forward

I have experienced so many amazing experiences in the last three weeks that I am actually short of words.  I feel full, ready to give birth to new ideas and even a new chapter in my life.

Yet, while I was away, my beautiful and loving 86 year old grandmother passed away.  Her health condition had been growing worse so we knew that she would not be around much longer.  Just before going to Nigeria, I took my daughters with me and we visited her for an hour.  It was a time of joy.  Maggie and Skye each wanted to sing a solo.  Then, my grandmom even chimed in with some of her songs.

A day or so before my grandmother moved on she said to my aunt, "I am not ready to go.  I have too many things left to do."  My aunt comforted and assured her, "I will take care of what is left, Mom, you don't need to worry." 

We truly do carry on the work of generations that have gone before us.  My grandmother was full of love.  Her gift was cooking and baking.  She expressed this gift regularly during my high school and college years.  I'd receive rice krispie treats, brownies, cupcakes, pineapple upside down cakes and chocolate cakes.  I was quite popular on my basketball team because of these gifts!

She also had a way of making me laugh as she told her stories of growing up.  My grandmother was pure in heart, genuine in spirit and simply loving.

As I write this week, my desire is to carry on her legacy.  Her love lives inside me. It was a vital part of who I have become.  She passed this love and acceptance to my mom and then my mom passed it to me.  I see that it is now my calling to deliver the same love to my daughters.

A song she wrote was called Joy In the Morning.  I pray that each of us experience deep joy each morning as we start each new day.  May we feel God's enduring love in our lives and know that we are cared for and guided along life's path.

If I could, I'd bake you a cake in honor of my grandmom.  I guess instead I will tell you in her words, "I love you, honey, and I am proud of you."

This Sunday we celebrate her life.
Today, I celebrate yours and pray that you are creating a lasting legacy!

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Inspiring and Inspired

Where do I begin?  I have had the richest few days of experiences.  I landed in Nigeria on Thursday.  So much has happened since then.

On Saturday I got straight to work by speaking at two events in the morning for young leaders.  The audience was engaged and it was an honor to share some key ideas for Harnessing the Power of the Mind. 
I was honored to receive the first ever Legend in Leadership award by Now Leadership International (run by Daniel-Adeniyi Obafemi, a fantastic leader.)

We then proceeded to Little Saints of Orphanage.  Through donations, we were able to purchase a month's worth of rice and semovita to give to the founder of the orphanage.  She was delighted.  We also brought cake and cans of soda and had a party with boys and girls (little ones up to teens).  We ate cake, sang songs, danced and even distributed Silly Bands to all the kids.  The kids were beautiful.  The orphanage receives no state or government support.  It is run solely by private donations.  They take children who are abandoned and left on the street.  They work to find foster homes and adoptive families.  Or, they raise the children until they finish college.  Amazing work. 

The orphanage needs monetary support as well as donations of food (rice, semovita, powdered milk and school supplies).  Please let me know if you'd like to help!  They also need people who are willing to foster and adopt the children!

On Sunday was a very special occasion.  I was hosted by Timeless Magazine and Ayo Moses PR to a dinner for the Friends of Patricia Omoqui held in Lagos, Nigeria.  The evening was full of comedy, good music, tasty food and a few words from me on the importance of shifting our national mindset to make Nigeria the Great Nation she can be.  I felt loved, honored and quite humbled by the experience.  I was given an awared by Timeless Magazine for the positive, empowered writing I have been doing to encourage Nigerians to reach their potential and step forward as change agents to improve the country. 

Today was extra-ordinary!  I spent the morning and early afternoon with the Disabled Athletes of Lagos State.  I was with the para-basketball team.  These athletes are incredibly resilient and courageous.  They come from a culture in Nigeria where people with disabilities are seen as shameful and less than.  Yet, through their efforts on the court, they are showing their families and their community that they have talent.  I was able to let them know that they are valuable no matter how others percieve them.  These athletes need wheelchairs for playing basketball.  I am praying that donors will step forward and help fund these athletes so they can reach even greater levels of success on the court!

These athletes need wheel chairs (approximately 20 of them)!  Do you know anyone who is willing to donate or do you have connections with organizations who work with para-athletes?  Please contact me!

I love Nigeria.  I am glowing with love and hope.  There are tremendous challenges here.  Yet, the opportunity for developing potential, creating solutions and empowering people is incredibly vast!

I end with my motto as an agent of positive change:  I do what I can, with the resources I have, where I am right now. 

If we each do small things each day to help others, we can make a visible change in our world.  I pray you do so.  I pray God gives me the strength to continue to help others in any way I can. 

With my love for you,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Keep Stepping Forward

Tonight I wrote close to 40 of my daily Food For Thought emails.  I've written over 1,000 of them in total the past few years.  It takes focus and persistence to do this every week for several years.  (My years of playing basketball taught me this type of self-discipline.)  I'm happy to write the emails.  I've written these emails during dark, difficult days.  I've written these emails during bright, exciting times.

I share this personal experience with you only to encourage you: follow your dream, offer your service and live your purpose no matter the highs or lows you are experiencing. 

I know it can feel challenging to keep going, especially in those days you feel stuck or you see no visible progress.  I've been there.  I still have those days.  But, I love the path I have chosen and I wake up each day and do my best. 

Sometimes my best is just one tiny move forward.  Other days I find myself running forward quickly.

Consistency is essential to fulfill your dreams.  So, keep at it!  Take that next little step to which you are guided.  If you can take a few more, then go for it! 

Your efforts will add up and pay off!

Believe in yourself.  Stay focused on your dreams.

With Love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Say What You Mean

Through some business interactions I've had this week, I am reminded of the importance of using our words wisely.  Too often people say things and do not really mean them.  They make commitments with no intention to follow through.  Yet, the only way we have to build trust in our relationships (business and personal) is to make good on what we say we will do.

Say what you mean!  Mean what you say!



A few simple examples:

• If you say you are going to call someone at a particular time, do so!  Be on time.  Show people you respect them by writing down your appointments and making sure you call.  If you can't call, give them advance notice that there is a complication and you need to reschedule.
• If you are working with someone on a project or hiring someone, don't make empty promises.  Only commit to what you know you can truly provide.  It is better to under promise and over deliver than to over promise and ruin a relationship.
• If you are having trouble meeting an agreement that is in place, it is best to communicate and let the other person knowin advance.  Hiding, ignoring a person's calls and emails and hoping the situation will go away is NOT a good way to handle your business.  Be courageous and honest.  In doing so, you will gain more respect and you open the door to understanding.
• If you don't know what you are able to commit to, then just simply say, "Let me think about what I am able to do. I don't know yet." It is better to go away and think about the situation before making empty promises.

Hope these ideas help you in your business and personal matters.
Be a person of your word.

With my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Love is the Purpose

I've come to realize that no matter what job we have or what our "outer purpose" is in the world, LOVE is our true purpose.  Anything done in the spirit of love --whether laundry or cutting the lawn or greeting a stranger, picking up trash or being an executive in a boardroom--anything done in the spirit of love can touch lives deeply.

This week, my simple focus is love.  Perhaps, that is truly what my life focus is.  As I center myself in love, more and more I realize that anything I do can be infused with color and meaning.  I used to dread the daily trivialities of housework and paperwork and the nitty gritty tasks of dealing with life.  But now, as I bring love to it and have a joyful song in my heart, I even see the amazing aspects of these ordinary tasks.

Open to infusing love into everything you think, say and do.  It's a tall task, I know.  But, if you begin to do so, life will take on a whole new look and feel for you!

Writing this short blog post with my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Loyalty and Collaboration

Keeping the blog short this week.  I will be honest and tell you I AM TIRED!

I've spent all week lost in the details of editing my manuscript.  I am finally in the last stages of layout and should soon get the first sample copy of my new book, Clarify Your Purpose and Live It!  I have learned a tremendous amount about book writing the last few years.  I'm so grateful for this experience.

I am feeling blessed today that I have such an amazing support system around me.  I have family that cares, friends that are understanding and helpful and business colleagues that are willing to collaborate.  So many people have played an essential role in bring this book idea to manifestation.

Creating a team of positive, empowered people is a helpful (even essential) foundation for success.  Take a look around your life.  How is your support team?  Are they draining your energy or lifting you up when you are down?  Do they collaborate and cooperate or are the people in your life out to compete against you, even sabotage your success?  Do you have people who come and go as they please or are do you have a team that is loyal and will go the extra mile?

Being surrounded by good people makes a tremendous difference in life.  If you feel that you need some new teammates, why not write a list of all the traits you are looking for in enhancing your "success team."

Writing this list will give you a clearer picture of what you are looking for. Then, don't be surprised as you begin encountering the type of people you were hoping to find. 

Wishing you a happy, successful, joyful week ahead!

with love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/



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Harness Your Power: The "List Exercise"

I thought I'd share with you this week a simple, but helpful practice I use on a daily basis.  It keeps me organized, helps me prioritize my work and it also assists me in letting go of my worries.

In the morning as I start my day, I write two lists.  The first list is all the "next steps" I am aware that I could take in reaching my goals and taking care of my responsibilities in my work and personal life.  The second list is a list for "My Project Manager" a.k.a. for God.  It is a list of all the issues, concerns and items that I feel are currently out of my control.  By putting them on paper I am consciously surrendering the worry and declaring to myself that I will be guided and directed in the resolution of each item on this list.

Sometimes I take a third step and write out a prayer.  This is a helpful way for me to express what is in my heart, how I feel about the successes and the challenges in my life and then, it allows me to release the burdens I am feeling.

I've been learning once again that spending time fretting over what is out of my hands only makes me feel sick inside.  When I relax and trust that every seeming issue finds a way to a good resolution, I feel better and keep more of my precious energy.

I wish you a happy, productive and peaceful week ahead.
Give the lists a try and let me know what you think!

With love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: What Are You Weaving?

I am almost done the entire manuscript for my book, Clarify Your Purpose & Live It!  I'm sooooo very excited to be so close to sharing it with you.  I love the topic of life purpose.  I have come to realize that the main purpose for each of us is LOVE.  In that light, I wanted to share a few thoughts with you on weaving a legacy of love into the lives of others.  I trust these words will get you thinking deeply this week.

What are you weaving?


The ancient Greek politician and statesman Pericles said, “What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.”

So, what is it that you are weaving?

Take a close look at your interactions with others. I’d encourage you to answer each of these questions in writing.

Am I collaborating or competing?

Am I offering respect or discrimination?

Am I harmonizing or bickering?

Am I sharing or demanding?

Am I uplifting or criticizing?

Each of your thoughts, words and actions are the threads you weave.

Are you weaving something you are proud of? Is it that masterpiece you desire to be remembered for?

Each day is new and fresh. Each moment you have a choice of the impact you have on the people around you.

Embrace kindness, acceptance, compassion, understanding and giving and you are sure to make a tapestry that is splendid and leaves a lasting impression when your time on Earth is done!

Weaving a masterpiece with you,


Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.

www.patriciaomoqui.com

Harness Your Power: Enjoy Your Health

Last Tuesday night I received a call from my husband, "Trish, I am on my way to the emergency room, I broke my arm."  He had been playing soccer (futbol) with some friends.  His cleat got stuck in the ground and he fell in just the "perfect" way to break his left forearm in TWO places.   (Yes, that's him with my daughter Skye in this picture.  Believe me, he wasn't smiling like this when I saw him at the hospital!)

I called my mom, "Please, can you come be with the kids so I can get to the hospital.  David needs me." 

Thirty minutes later I was on my way to the hospital.  When I got there my husband was in the most pain I've ever seen him in.  His arm was dangling in front of him and was rather crooked -- bones were in directions they shouldn't be pointing.

After hours in the emergency room and x-rays, David was admitted.  Emergency surgery happened the following day.  The surgeon came and told me, "I love a good challenge and putting your husband's arm back together was a good one for me."  He was certainly passionate about his work, and I'm thankful for that.

Finally on Thursday evening I was able to bring David home. 

Life brings many unexpected challenges.  Watching the intense pain my husband has with every small movement made me extremely thankful for good health and a strong body.  We often don't value this enough. 

So, this week, I challenge you to notice how your body is working--wow...look at how those arms and wrists move.  Legs carry you along life's path each day.  Notice how many functions your body performs with any thought on your part!  Incredible!  Be thankful.  Nurture your body.  Pay attention if it tells you something is not working and get a physician to check you out if necessary.

Without a healthy body it is difficult to pursue our dreams or even enjoy the very basic, simple aspects of life.  Cherish what you have!  I had a moment of total love when I saw my husband after surgery...I was just SO THANKFUL it was only his arm that had been hurt.  I can't imagine life without him.

I give thanks for loving, supportive friends and family.  I appreciate surgeons, hospitals, and pain medications.  I am so thankful my husband is alive and that other than his arm, he is in great health.  I give thanks that all my bones are fully intact!  So many blessings, so many.

Much love and wishes for good health!

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Breakthroughs Do Come!

It's been an interesting few weeks.  A few breakthroughs and openings have developed in my career.  It's exciting to see the seeds I've planted bear more fruit. 

I found out last week that my weekly column will now also appear in the Daily Dispatch, a newspaper in Ghana.  And, my TV clips will appear on Crystal TV Ghana, on the show Trailblazers in Africa.  The remarkable timing of it all is that I will also be speaking with Dayo Israel's Advance 360 Peak Performance tour in Ghana on September 25th!  (Lagos, Sept 11th & Abuja, Sept. 18th). 

God aligns my path.  I smiled, laughed and even had a song in my heart to see this all come together.

These opportunities appeared suddenly in the most unexpected way!  I've been envisioning these types of openings happening but had no idea how they'd come about or when.  I realize that it is essential to persevere through the dark times, through the times when you can't yet see the fruits of your labor.  And, even when you think nothing is happening, things are developing.   The Divine IS conspiring with you.  Will you have the faith?

I'm working hard right now on a book called Clarify Your Purpose & Live It!  It's a short, but powerful book to help people look deep within and find what they truly want in life.  I can't wait to release it and I hope you will buy a copy when it's ready.

I love life.  I love people.  I can't imagine doing anything other than living my purpose of helping people reach their full potential.  I am simply amazed and overjoyed this week at the way the Divine works with us when we are willing to overcome our fears and stay steadfastly focused on our calling.

(If you want to hear me speak in Africa, check out http://www.dayoisrael.com/ to reigster.  I will also speak with this tour in NYC on November 6th.)

With Love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Beyond Judgment to Love

There is a deep pain in my heart.  I will be honest.  I was judged deeply and broadly and harshly by someone close to me.  I felt angry.  I wanted to lash out.  I began to judge the other person in my heart, "Who is this person anyway?  How can they not accept me for the path I've chosen?"  Quickly, though, I stopped myself.

I've been through this pattern before.  The "they-judge-me-and-then-I-get-angry-and judge-in-return" pattern.  You've experienced this pattern, haven't you?  It seems this is one deeply felt by those who are part of our human family.

Today felt intense as I moved through a range of emotions from pure anger, to frustration and heart-breaking sadness.  Yet, I am grateful to this learning partner of mine.  This situation challenged me once again to replace my anger with love. 

What is the point of me judging the other person for judging me?  I have to laugh. Think of these cycles we humans create!  One person is angry and judges the other.  Then, the other person judges the other person.  The conflict begins and escalates quickly as emotional exchanges leads to shouting matches.  Then people walk away from one another -- siblings against siblings, parents against children, long-time friends part ways. 

What is this insanity we are creating?

What if, instead, the person being judged simply said, "Thank you for your perspective.  I will consider it even though I don't agree with it." 

What if, instead, the person being judged simply said, "No matter how you feel about me, I choose to love you?"

My prayer this week is that God will expand my heart beyond all judgment.  That I will learn to take nothing personally but instead see even those who offend me and accuse me with eyes of compassion.

Will you join me?

With a humble heart desiring to learn,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Shifting Perceptions

My kids started a local summer camp this week.  At the camp is a young man who has a serious medical condition.  The young man walks and talks differently than the others. 

Skye, my 5 year old, came home and was laughing.  She told me about the boy and said he was funny looking.  Skye and I had a heart-to-heart talk.  I reminded Skye that God gives each of us a special body.  I asked her what it would feel like if someone laughed at her for how she looked.  She didn't say much in response but I could tell she was thinking.

At the end of the week Skye proudly announced to me, "Mom, I was really nice to him today." 

"Who, Skye?"  I asked.

She replied, "The boy who walks different than me."

"I'm so proud of you!" I exclaimed.

In one short week Skye's thinking had changed.  Her heart had opened and she was offering kindness rather than jeering.

Skye reminded me of the importance of loving others for who they are.  Each of us is created unique, special.

Let us take the time to see beyond the differences to the desire each of us has to be loved, accepted and seen for the remarkable being we are made to be.

I created a video about this last year...I think you might be inspired by it: 

New Vision: Love & Acceptance for All

Offering love to you for who you are :)

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Choose Peace

Peace has been my focus this week.  In the midst of uncertainty, I have learned that either I can be afraid of what's to come or I can choose to relax into the unknown.  I've been relaxing.  I've been affirming:  I am always guided.  I am clearly shown the best next steps on my path.

Life has a way of guiding us when we open our minds and hearts and trust.  I've seen this repeatedly in my life.  I have plenty of evidence of the unique twists and turns my path has taken.  So, in this time I am remembering how I always am supported and cared for even when the path ahead appears cloudy.

I've gone back to the basics of breathing deeply, stretching my muscles, taking a walk and connecting with nature.  I've looked at my children and focused on being child-like with them.  I keep coming back to THIS MOMENT and finding the enjoyment available to me now.

Hope these ideas help you in finding some peace this week.
You deserve to have peace NOW !!

With Love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Step - by - Step Adds Up!

Is it just me?  Or, is time moving really fast these days?

I find that a day seems to go by as fast as a few hours.  A week feels like it was only a day.  I often sit and wonder how I will ever be able to make the progress my heart yearns for.  It appears there just isn't enough time for everything I want to accomplish.

I have concluded that daily baby steps taken on my desires ADD UP!  There are times when it feels like the little moves forward make no difference.  I look ahead and the destination I am aiming for still seems so far away.  Yet, with determination and passion, I stay focused and keep moving forward, doing whatever I possibly can each day to progress.

Keep taking your daily baby steps toward your dream.  Don't give up.  The effort you are putting in is worthwhile!   Enjoy the entire journey.  Each step provides essential learning for your soul's development.  Be exuberant and joyful as you experience life.

Here are a few quotes I found that I thought might uplift you:

“Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.”  (Mark Victor Hansen)

"Progress always involves risk; you can't steal second base and keep your foot on first base.” (Frederick Wilcox)

"Never discourage anyone...who continually makes progress, no matter how slow."  Plato

Keep moving forward! 
I'm moving forward with you,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Notice the Fear

I am amazed at the number of layers of fear I have inside me.  I've been working on my fears for years now -- looking at each one, studying it and letting it go.  Yet, it seems that because I am willing to release all my fear, life brings me all the right situations to help me see what fear still remains.

There is nothing new under the sun.  The humans who have walked this planet for thousands of years before me have all thought and felt these things.  Those who come after me will feel fear too.  Yet, each human does make it through their journey on earth.  This being the case, what if we could skip the stress and anxiety piece of it and walk life in peace even int he difficult times.

Things always have a way of working out.  I'd rather go through a struggle and not drain my energy.  I'd rather feel well every day than have knots in my neck and stomach.  So, I continue to devote my focus to understanding the depths of my fears.  I'm learning about myself in deeper and deeper ways because of my willingness to see and know.  I am always shown more insights.  For this I am thankful.

On another note, I was fortunate to have spent time with a fantastic Nigerian artist, Nneka Egbuna.  You really should check out her music.  (http://www.nnekaworld.com/us/video ).  Her lyrics are deeply spiritual and her music moves the soul.  She made some profound statements about life and love that I am excited to share via my column in Vanguard Newspaper.

Maggie and Skye, my daughters, are big fans of hers because I play Nneka's music all the time in the car.  They had the privilege of seeing her perform and then meeting her backstage.  How blessed we are.

I pray this week that we are able to see the fears that bind us and keep us from feeling well.  May we each identify those fears and may we be guided to release the fear and move into an inner knowing that All is Well...All is Well all the time.

(As a continuation to last week's blog, my neighbor and her baby are now safely checked into a six-month drug rehab program.  It is a joy to see them launched into a new phase and I pray that healing and progress happen for them in these upcoming months.)

With my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Love & Spit Up

I'm sitting down on Memorial day evening.  I've gotten spit up on my shirt.  It's been an interesting holiday.

I had no idea that I'd have an extra baby living with me this weekend.   It was Love's calling.  A girl in my neighborhood who has a 10 month old son decided a week ago that she wanted to kick her drug addiction.  I was out of town on my book retreat when the text message came, "You told me that when I was ready to surrender and move forward that you and your family would help me.  I'm ready."  I was in awe.  This was truly miraculous. 

This text message kicked off a tremendous learning process for me and several family members.

There have been many ups and downs.  I've had moments of tremendous anger and sadness as she tried to run away and told me, "I'm taking my baby and I'm going to get high...I don't care what you think."  Then, hours later, after she and the baby sat in the pouring rain with no shelter, we received the phone call, "Please come get me.  I need help.  I need to get better."

We have had special moments too.  A few days into her withdrawal process she said, "I don't want to lose my son.  I want to get better.  I have to do this.  Thank you for helping me even when I have pushed you away."

Little did I know that this weekend I'd have baby boy with me.  Before entering a several month rehab program with her baby, this young lady was required to detox further under medical supervision and she couldn't bring her son.  Thus began our four day adventure.  I was given formula, wipes, diapers and clothes.

My children loved it of course.  Maggie and Skye enjoy playing mommy.  I've cherished it too -- though I must confess that it has been exhausting and has really got me to thinking.  What became clear to me is that when we offer love, we must be willing to go where love wants us to go and do what love needs us to do.  Sometimes this comes down to changing diapers, wiping up spit up and making sure another person's child is safe while they get better.

I honestly never would have thought that I'd be doing this.   I had planned to get an article written, to have time for relaxing and cleaning up the house.  The Universe always keeps me on my toes.  I am always surprised by how things turn out.

 I met this girl only nine weeks ago in my neighborhood.  I've been given a crash course in addictions.  I've learned that until a person is ready to surrender, until THEY WANT to get better, there is no stopping them from doing what they want to do.  I sat in the hospital one night after I got the news she had overdosed.  I went there prepared to hear the news that my friend had died.  But, she survived.

I write all this only to say that I have been reminded again that LOVE is patient, kind...it goes the extra mile, it does what it might not even want to do, it serves when and where it is called.  I'm being forced to live what I teach day in and day out.  I'm being stretched.  I'm growing in ways I never anticipated and being given crash  courses by the Universe on topics I never thought I'd be exposed to.

I pray often, "God use me in whatever way you need me today."  And God never allows a willing servant to go without an assignment :)  Perhaps God is chuckling lovingly at me while reading what I've written.

Let us all willingly follow where Love calls us. 

Written in love and with a prayer for my friend and for all addicts worldwide to find a way to freedom,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

When we feel unhappy about the results we are getting in our lives, too often we look to blame external circumstances.  What if instead, we take a peek inside -- examine your mind and your thinking closely! 

Small thinking creates small living.  Empowered thinking creates empowered living.

The choice of thought is always ours.  But we often don't realize this and go with whatever flow of thinking comes into our mind.  Things like, "I'm no good...I can't do it....I'm never going to make it...I'll never find the love I want...I'm damaged goods nobody would love me....I'm just not smart enough, strong enough or good enough to get what I want in life."

Does any of that type of thinking sound vaguely familiar to you?

Take a peek this week.  Look at your thinking.  Examine it closely.  Do so by writing down the thoughts on paper and asking yourself, "Is the way I'm thinking about myself and life helping me to create a life I love or is it keeping me from what I want?"

Be honest.

If you need some help in transforming your thoughts, that is my specialty.

As the Thought Dr., I believe that as we heal our thoughts, we can heal every aspects of our lives.  It takes time and practice.  It takes honesty and willingness.  It takes dedication and discipline.  AND once you get the hang of it you will be amazed at the way you bloom!

With all my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Flow with Life's Surprises

On Friday I boarded a plane to Dallas, TX.  This was to be the first stop on my journey to Albuquerque, NM.  We took off at 11 a.m.  Plane had already been delayed several hours.  While in flight we were told the Dallas airport was closed.  The pilot took us to Little Rock, Arkansas.  The airport didn't have any free gates open so we sat in the plane for four hours until the Dallas airport reopened. 

While sitting there for four hours, I had some great conversation with fellow passengers and chose not to look at my watch even once.  I reminded myself, "I will get there when I get there."

Finally we arrived.  I go to the American Airlines counter and I'm told, "All flights to New Mexico have been cancelled for the remainder of the day."  My mom and I are given a voucher for a local hotel and find our way there. 

To go with the flow or to fight with the reality of life?   It was all out of my control.  All I could do was choose a perspective that permitted me to experience peace and well-being during these unexpected changes to our schedule.

Friday we woke up, had breakfast and boarded a plane to Albuquerque.  At last we had arrived.  It was a relief and a joy to finally be to our destination.

I'm here in Albuquerque with the intention of finishing my first book.  I came here last October with the same intention.  I made great progress on my last trip but there was more that I needed to learn, ways I needed to stretch in order for the books to be fully written.

I will be honest and tell you that I have NEVER written a book.  It can feel daunting at times.  The self-doubt arises, "Trish, who are you to think you have a book to write and share with others?  You haven't done this so how do you think you know what it means to write a book?  What are you thinking trying to pull this off?"

This trip I have decided to put all self-doubt and fear aside -- the ironic thing is that is partially what my book teaches.  It's funny that writing a book on transforming your thinking forces the author to further transform her own :) 

I am enjoying the process.  I've decided to release all timetables and inner pressure to GET IT DONE.  Instead, I am spending the time in silence and stillness.  I'm swimming, walking and sitting in nature.  I'm resting when needed.  And, I'm opening my computer to write anytime I feel inspired.  One day, I am sure, this book will get done.

The cover is designed.  The graphic artist awaits the final text for interior design.  I remind myself, all things happen in God's time.  I surrender myself to this amazing process.  I never would have believed it could be tihs challenging.  Perhaps I never would have started it if I knew! 

So this week, why not GO WITH THE FLOW!  Enjoy the unexpected twists and turns on your path.  If you open to these moments rather than fight with them, you may find some wonderful life lessons and even a few joyful moments too.

Pay attention to your fear and self-doubt.  Why not see your power?  Why not understand the potential you have?  As you let go of these harmful thought patterns and open to seeing the good in yourself, you may find some amazing things come about -- who knows -- maybe YOU will be writing a book soon.

With all my love
Please say a prayer of inspiration for me this week :)

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Power of Self-Talk

This morning I will be speaking locally at a Mother's Day breakfast.  I am looking forward to sharing insights with the mom's on the importance of self-talk.

We are typically our own harshest critics.  About 7 years ago I discovered that my thoughts about myself were harsh, guilt-ridden and extremely judgmental -- "I'm not a good enough mom or wife.  I should do better.  I don't measure up.  I can't keep up with others.  What if I don't give my kids what they need?  I am too fat.  I am not pretty enough.  I should be working harder, longer and doing more...."  On and on and on the self-talk went. 

From the outside people thought I had it altogether.  But on the inside I was beating myself up constantly. 
I was my own worst enemy. 

As I began to study my mind I realized that beating myself up was only one possible approach.  In fact, I began to see that I'd never talk that way to other people, so why would I be doing this to myself?

I began to review this disempowered self-talk and revise it.  Here is what I came up with to replace the old thinking:  "I am a good wife and mom.  I do my best every day.  What gets done today gets done.  The rest can wait until tomorrow.  I love myself and honor myself for trying so hard.  I am a beautiful person inside and out."

With this change in self-talk I began to feel better.  And, I began to find proof of all the ways in which I was a good wife and mom.  The better I felt inside, the more energy I had.  The more energy I had, the better I became.

How is your self-talk?  Take a close look this week.  Begin to write down any negative, disempowered thinking that haunts you.  Write the thoughts down and study the impact they have on your life -- if you changed this thinking, how different would your life feel?

You can do it!
If you need support, I'm only an email away :)

With all my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

I have plenty of free positive affirmations at my website...check them out :)
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/freeresources-affirmations.html

Harness Your Power: Keep Your Focus

I have been reminded this week through my own life experience and watching people arond me that we have more power and choice in our destiny than we realize. 

It is essential to clarify what we want to experience in all aspects of life (spiritual, relational, financial, professional, physical well-being etc.)  When we lack clarity we spin in circles and go on rabbit trails.  We allow whatever life presents to us to become our focus rather than consciously choosing our direction.

Each of us is constantly bombarded with a myriad of people, places and opportunities.  Those with clear vision maximize life by walking with their eyes open and seizing the empowered, positive possibilities presented.  Those without clear vision often (consciously or unconsciously) accept negative, self-defeating possibilities and become derailed. 

Here is a specific example.  I know a young person who has issues with drug use.  God has placed in his life positive people who want to help him to his goals.  Yet also on his life path are those who still partake and offer him drugs.  When focused on his vision of being drug free, he is able to avoid those people and / or be clear in stating he is not interested in engaging in drugs.  When he is not clear, he spends time with people who are doing drugs and gets sucked into his old habits.

What do you want?  What are you focused on?  Are you allowing yourself to unconsciously spin in old patterns?  Are you ready to break free and move swiftly to what your heart desires?

Take time this week to write down a clear statement of what you desire to experience in life in the next three months. 

Keep your list in front of you.  Read it every day. 

Then, as people, places and possibilities come your way, evaluate whether or not they support you in reaching your vision. 

If they don't, then make conscious choices to use your energy powerfully and purposefully instead.

I'm doing this with you!  I'm actively focusing my energy and staying distraction free:)

It is a daily choice to do so.


With Love
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: All You Need is Love

I want to keep things simple this week.  I offer a gentle reminder that if you love yourself your whole life will change.  You will blossom into the incredible, unique expression of LIFE that you are meant to be.

I have been seeing this in a 21 year old woman who adopted me as her mom about six weeks ago.  When we met she was sad, depressed and in rather deep abuse and despair.  In the past six weeks she has been transforming in the most remarkable way.  In fact, she said to me yesterday, "Mom, I used to hate myself.  Now, I am opening to self-love."  I have been reminding her that she deserves to be loved.

I've been observing this change first-hand.  Her faces and smile are brighter and she feels hope.  She sees some new possibilities for her life.  She has lots of steps to take to get where she wants to be in life, but she feels more energy and knows that she can do it.

All you truly need for radical life transformation is LOVE, deep love and acceptance for yourself.  The more of this you give yourself, the more easily you will make choices that are good for you.

You can do it.
I send you my love, encouragement and support.

There is nothing wrong with you...you are created the way you are for a very important purpose. 

Affirm this week:  I open to loving myself more each day.
Say it with conviction.  Offer up a prayer asking for help with this.

Miracles happen.
With my love,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Stay Focused & Be Patient

Ponder this, “It’s the constant and determined effort that breaks down all resistance and sweeps away all obstacles.” (Claude M. Bristol)


Are you tired of the obstacles you encounter as you focus your energy on creating the life of your dreams?

Remember, the river flows gently and easily around any rock that appears in its path. You can move beyond obstacles like this too!

Perhaps you aren’t seeing progress happen as fast as you’d like and you’ve gotten frustrated.

Relax.  Life unfolds in the perfect time.  Be patient. 

Keep focused. Day-by-day effort adds up. You are paving a new path. Of course there will be challenges!

Enjoy each moment of your path.  Don't postpone happiness until the changes come.  Enjoy today for what it is.

I wrote this message for me and for you.  These reminders are very helpful for those of us who desire continued growth and aspire to reach our highest potential.

Have a blessed week ahead...and relax your spirit.  It may be easier than you think :)

Patricia Omoqui,  The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Release the Pressure

Often it is we who are the ones who put the most pressure on ourselves.  I'm really good at this -- especially when it comes to writing.  I've been working on a book now for several years.  I've made good progress, in fact, I'm getting really close to finalizing it.  Yet, there have been days when I am putting so much pressure on myself to get it done, that I give myself a headache and stomachache.

I laugh as I write.  I know that my thoughts on the matter are causing the physical reaction in my body and the stressful emotions.

As I notice this happening, I stop.  I step back.  I let it go.  I breathe.  I remember that my best writing comes when it moves from my heart to my fingers and onto the page.  I realize pushing something to completion and exhausting myself in the meantime is actually not how I want to live.

So, I am refocusing my thinking this week.  I'm trying to rest my mind and let go of the pressure-filled thinking.  A book is in my heart and will be born at the right moment.  In fact, sometimes what is inside us must mature long enough so that it isn't born before it's time.  I guess like  a pregnant lady nearing the end of her last tri-mester, the feeling of "I just want this baby out of me!" is what I feel some days.

Whether you are writing a book, remodelling your home, dealing with your children or any other project going on in your life, I invite you to release the inner pressure and instead, let the flow of life move you through it.

The river of life moves us forward naturally.  If we just stay relaxed, we move.  If we swim upstream thinking we have to figure it all out on our own, we do exhaust ourselves (at least I sure do).

Life is on schedule.  Perhaps we just need to shift our thinking and be a bit gentler to ourselves.

Here are a few suggestions:

I relax my mind.
I release the inner pressure.
I open to the flow of life.
I am on schedule.
Everything that needs to get done in a day, gets done.
The rest of my tasks and projects are there waiting for me tomorrow.
I rejuvenate my mind and spirit and body so I feel well.
From joy, my best work flow easily.

I send my love to you :)
We sure are funny creatures, aren't we ?

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

p.s. I'm taking on new life coaching clients if you are interested and could use the support.