We are typically our own harshest critics. About 7 years ago I discovered that my thoughts about myself were harsh, guilt-ridden and extremely judgmental -- "I'm not a good enough mom or wife. I should do better. I don't measure up. I can't keep up with others. What if I don't give my kids what they need? I am too fat. I am not pretty enough. I should be working harder, longer and doing more...." On and on and on the self-talk went.
From the outside people thought I had it altogether. But on the inside I was beating myself up constantly.
I was my own worst enemy.
As I began to study my mind I realized that beating myself up was only one possible approach. In fact, I began to see that I'd never talk that way to other people, so why would I be doing this to myself?
I began to review this disempowered self-talk and revise it. Here is what I came up with to replace the old thinking: "I am a good wife and mom. I do my best every day. What gets done today gets done. The rest can wait until tomorrow. I love myself and honor myself for trying so hard. I am a beautiful person inside and out."
With this change in self-talk I began to feel better. And, I began to find proof of all the ways in which I was a good wife and mom. The better I felt inside, the more energy I had. The more energy I had, the better I became.
How is your self-talk? Take a close look this week. Begin to write down any negative, disempowered thinking that haunts you. Write the thoughts down and study the impact they have on your life -- if you changed this thinking, how different would your life feel?
You can do it!
If you need support, I'm only an email away :)
With all my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/
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