Harness Your Power

Foundation for Success: Empowered Thinking!

2012-01-22T06:25:00.000-08:00

Imagine being plagued by constant self-doubt and pain from your past. A constant barrage of inner criticism to yourself is an exhausting state of mind, isn't it? I would know. I used to live that way. My mind would literally "beat me up" from morning until night with criticism and judgment: "You should be further a long in your career. . . you should be getting more done at home. . .you are not pretty enough or skinny enough. . . your friends have nicer homes than you, why can't you get further ahead and catch up to them?"

Wow. Just reviewing the way I used to think makes me feel exhausted.

I woke up to my thinking about 8 years ago. I literally began to study my thoughts, examining them closely one-by-one. I wrote them down. I questioned them, "Why do I choose to dwell on this thought? What is the impact of this thought patter in my life? Who would I be if I changed my thinking?"

I gained an awareness that led me through a remarkable process of transformation: I changed from the inside out. As I started to change my thinking, I literally gained a new leash on life! It was amazing. My emotions went from sad and depressed to peaceful and excited. I became free from fear and self-doubt. I opened the door to my dreams and saw that I DID have the power to pursue what I really wanted in life.

Anyone can go through this type of change. In the past few years I have coached hundreds of men and women through this same process. It works. It is simple. It takes work, though--a personal commitment to become aware of your thoughts and then a determination to create new thinking habits.

Shifting your thoughts is THE MOST WORTHWHILE way you could spend the first part of 2012. Good thinking is the foundation to success and satisfaction.

Here are the keys areas you can focus on for the week ahead:

1. Observe your fears and worries – write these down on paper in detail so you can see them clearly.

2. Observe negative emotions that you feel throughout the day – what was the thought that preceded the way you felt? If you want to feel emotionally and physically better more of the time, you need to understand the thoughts that are causing you to feel bad emotionally.

3. Notice what percentage of time your thoughts are focused in the past, the present moment or the future. Most of us live the majority of our time in the past or the future. By observing the patterns you have, you can then learn how to focus more of your thoughts in the present moment. The present moment is the ONLY moment you can impact – the past was a present moment that already happened and the future is a present moment that is going to happen.

4. Observe your self-talk – what do you think and say about yourself? What aspects of yourself do you like? What aspects of yourself do you judge and criticize? By understanding self-doubt you can then identify key ways you might be limiting yourself in your life.

If you feel stuck or overwhelmed, don't worry. Changing your thinking takes time. It is a process that takes consistent, moment-by-moment awareness. If you find yourself struggling, seek help. Yes, you can drop me an email and I will respond if you do.

I know YOU HAVE MORE POWER than you yet realize. I trust you are ready to tap into it :)

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

P.S. I still review my thoughts every day...and I still find opportunities to change my thinking!

Empowered 2012 - Embrace Change

2012-01-02T17:35:00.000-08:00

I'm starting the year and already, 2012 is full of changes for me. I am packing boxes, moving locations. There is a part of me that feels nervous but the greater part of me is EXCITED. New times, fresh starts, original openings and amazing avenues--it is all right in front of me.

I smile as I write this. I, as well as my fellow human beings, experience so many sensations and emotions when experiencing change.

I see clearly that I have choice! The choice I have in every second of my life is my perspective. Will I know that things will always work out for my best? Or, will I be afraid?

Will I forge ahead with joy or will I be nervously hesitant?

Will I embrace the challenges and differences or will I be intimated?

Isn't it cool that I get to choose how I want to experience life? I sure think so. I love it. I am empowered when I choose an empowered outlook.

So, this week I offer you a challenge. Write down the many changes and uncertainties you are experiencing in your life right now. Then, for each one, ask yourself the following questions (and write your answer down): "What perspective will I choose as I face this? What do I want to see happen?"

You have choice. Choose the thoughts you bring to your life situation wisely. If you do, you may just find that no matter the ups and downs, twists or turns, highs or lows, YOU CAN EXPERIENCE PEACE :)

Here are a few helpful quotes on change that I thought you'd enjoy:

“Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.” -Andre Gide

“Someone was hurt before you, wronged before you, hungry before you, frightened before you, beaten before you, humiliated before you, raped before you… yet, someone survived…

You can do anything you choose to do.” –Maya Angelou

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” -C.S. Lewis

“All great changes are preceded by chaos.” -Deepak Chopra

“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” -Marilyn Monroe

Riding the waves of change with you!

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Less Stress This Holiday

2011-12-04T18:12:00.000-08:00

So many of us are stressed even before the holidays arrive. Then we add in expectations of relatives, more parties to already-busy schedules, extra financial burdens -- and what do we get? MORE STRESSED OUT!

What if you could move through the last four weeks of the year with peace, joy and satisfaction?

What if you could do the holidays on your terms, letting go all pressures (outer and inner)?

I believe it is possible. And, here are a few ideas to help you achieve well-being as you close 2011 and start a New Year!

Realize that stress is a gift. It shows you where your life is out of balance. Pay attention. Look closely at what is bothering you.

2. Rather than letting your worries swirl endlessly inside you, write them down. Go down your list one item at a time. Ask yourself, “Is there anything I can do today to change the situation?” If so, take a step of action. If not, release the challenges to God. This famous prayer from Alcoholics Anonymous is a powerful one to memorize and use regularly: “God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change; The Courage to change the things I can; and the Wisdom to know the difference.”

3. Do one moment at a time. What needs your focus RIGHT NOW? Do not let worries about something you have to face a few hours or a few weeks from now take your energy away from today. Remember, you have always found a way forward—and you always will. Pour your energy into the moment you are in.

4. Commit yourself to finding the good. Stress is not caused by circumstances, but by our response to them. Allowing the negative to fill your mind will generate intense stress. Choosing to be hopeful, looking for a solution and taking one step at a time, will dissolve stress.

5. Breathe, breathe and breathe some more. When under pressure, we tend to hold our breath and tense our bodies. Change your energy. Take a moment to sit quietly and breathe deeply. Breathe in peace. Let go worry. Close your eyes. Let the tension drain out of your body and into the ground beneath you. Consciously relax every muscle from the top of your head, through your neck and shoulders, your torso, your legs, even those little toes you have.

6. Find a healthy outlet. Engage in creative activities that allow self-expression. Listen to music that soothes and uplifts you. Dance. Draw. Write in a journal. Take a walk. Play or watch your favorite sport.

7. Seek help. We all find ourselves in difficult situations. It is a sign of strength and wisdom to ask for help when you need it. If you have stressed to the point you feel physically ill, seek medical attention. If you find yourself unable to shake off anxiety, depression or panic, seek out a trusted friend or counselor. Sometimes a listening ear is all we need to release the inner pressure.

You can do it -- pick 3 of these helpful tips and put them to practice regularly as you navigate the holidays.

You DESERVE to feel well!
Make this a priority.

With a holiday smile,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.

http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Back to the Basics - Two Helpful Daily Practices

2011-11-06T17:33:00.000-08:00

Life can become incredibly intense and feel challenging. As I experience these times in my own life, it brings me back to the basics. I have been reminded the past few weeks that I only have to live ONE MOMENT at a time. That's it. If I can focus my energy in the NOW, then I can do what is needed for my life.

Two helpful practices that I've been using are gratitude and mindfulness. I thought I'd share a few thoughts on each practice with you.

Gratitude

Start and end the day by giving thanks. Focusing your heart and mind on gratitude will help you set an optimistic tone for your day. Before rising from bed, think of five things in your life right now for which you are thankful. From a friend to a bed to a beautiful sunrise to a pair of shoes – begin to notice each simple gift of sustenance and comfort that is so much a part of your life that you can hardly see it.

If you find yourself losing perspective midway through the day, stop and find something to be grateful for—like a pleasant greeting from a stranger or a call from a friend. Gratitude can raise your spirits and boost your energy.

Keep a small notebook and pen by your bed (you could even carry it with you during the day) to record your gratitude list. As you close your day, write down five things from the day for which you are grateful.

"If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, 'thank you,' that would suffice."

~Meister Eckhart

Mindfulness
Live life with mindfulness. We tend to live on auto-pilot moving from one activity to the next with very little thought. Using mindfulness is a powerful practice to bring our attention to the present moment. Each day choose one specific activity and give it your full attention. It can be drinking a glass of water, walking up a set of stairs, washing your hands, looking into your child’s or spouse’s eyes.

Engage as many of your sense as possible. For example, look closely at the piece of plantain you are about to eat. Notice its shape and color. Smell it before you put it into your mouth. Slowly enjoy chewing it – feeling the texture on your tongue, tasting the sweetness or saltiness. Listen quietly as you chew – be aware of your muscles and teeth.

By giving yourself totally to one such activity each day you will begin to view seemingly small every-day happenings in new ways. Soon you will be finding pleasure in things you didn’t even notice. Slow down and enjoy each moment of your life.

Hence, there is a time to go ahead and a time to stay behind.

There is a time to breathe easy and a time to breathe hard.

There is a time to be vigorous and a time to be gentle.

There is a time to gather and a time to release.

Can you see things as they are

And let them be all on their own?

~ Lao-tzu

Enjoy the week ahead!

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Growing Younger: Tapping Into the Fountain of Youth!

2011-10-30T16:42:00.000-07:00

I had my birthday yesterday and it was tremendous fun.

Yes, it seems each year my numerical age seems to go higher.

None of us want to get older, do we? Let’s face it, for thousands of years people have been in search of the mythical fountain of youth. Imagine what would happen if someone discovered the fountain and bottled the water. I bet most of us would be lined up to buy a few ounces no matter the cost.

I recently ran into a distant relative, someone I had not seen for several years. I was shocked at how much he had aged. The lines in his face had deepened. His hair had greyed. He seemed depressed, lethargic. I wondered to myself, “What happened?” So I delicately asked how he was doing. He shared stories of a messy divorce, a dissatisfying job and increasing health problems. When I asked how he was spending his time, he sighed, “I go to work. Come home. Watch the news. Surf the ‘net. Fall asleep on the couch. Then start the cycle over again the next day.”

Not long after, I encountered a family friend. I had not seen her for five years and was amazed at how young she looked. Her face was bright. She was vivacious, smiling and excited about life. Her energy was contagious. I was curious, “How did she grow younger rather than older?” I asked her what she had been doing. She shared honestly her challenges with finances, a job search and a stressful turn of events with one of her children. Then her attention naturally turned to the rich meaning she was finding with life. She had decided that no matter what life brought her way, she was going to live one moment at a time and experience peace. From her perspective, the best was yet to come.

I marveled at the contrast between these lives. Fascinating—two people both experiencing some difficult years and yet with starkly different outcomes in appearance and energy.

It got me thinking. How can a person remain youthful while navigating life’s inevitable ups and downs? Perhaps we can stay young and vibrant regardless of age. I know I would like to feel like Ellen Glasgow, author of The Woman Within. She said, “Though it sounds absurd, it is true to say I felt younger at sixty than I felt at twenty.”

Here are some key ways to tap into your inner fountain of youth. If you consistently use these ideas, you may just grow younger next year rather than older if you consistently practice these ideas.

1. Take care of your body. Do the basics. Eat fruits and vegetables. Drink enough water. Get a good night’s sleep. Take a short nap when your body calls for it. Stretch your muscles. Stay active and fit—at least get out and walk for twenty minutes a day. Your body’s well-being is an excellent investment. After all, you have your body for your entire life journey. Treat it with great respect.

2. Cultivate your relationship with God. Don’t reserve spirituality for emergencies. Experience God’s Presence all the time. Use daily spiritual practices like prayer and meditation to tap into stillness. Tune in to the Voice of God within you. Invite the peace that passes understanding. Notice the many ways God cares for you every day. Be child-like: trust God even in the darkest times. Those who remain aware of God’s workings are brighter and more joyful.

3. Keep positive company. As American playwright Tennessee Williams pointed out, “Life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the friends we choose.” Be wise in who you select for your inner circle. According to Jon Gordon, author of The Energy Bus, you should beware of “Energy Vampires.” He says, “They are everywhere. And they will suck the life out of you if you let them.”

Give yourself permission to keep the negative, complaining, judgmental, energy-draining pessimists at a distance. Instead surround yourself with positive, encouraging, nourishing, uplifting optimists. “Optimists are right. So are pessimists. It’s up to you to choose which you will be” (Harvey Mackay).

4. Stay curious and learn. Too many of us stop exploring new topics and skills simply because we earned a high school diploma or a college degree. No matter how much you think you know, it is a speck in comparison to what is offered in the vast and ever expanding library of life. Keep reading. Explore art, music, science, technology. Whatever captivates the child in you—that is what will keep you young. Getting in the creative flow eliminates all sense of age and time. Live in that space.

5. Revel in life’s simple things. Take the time to savor your food, dish by dish and bite by bite. Take an occasional moment to deeply breathe the fresh, free air. Enjoy the warmth of the sun. Cherish the smiles and laughter of children and the loving exchanges with your spouse.

6. Keep love alive. Appreciate the distinctive personalities and the unique essence of family members and friends. Do not take them for granted. Ordinary interactions become extraordinary memories. You are never too old to share love. Consider the possibility of falling in love again with your spouse. If you are not currently married, open your heart to a deep satisfying relationship.

7. Process life as it comes. Express what you need to express. Cry and grieve when you are mourning. Deal with anger when it occurs. Don’t carry heavy baggage from your past. Forgive. Move forward in power and freedom. Become present to the wonder and richness of each new moment.

8. Play, laugh, be joyful! Youthful people have light hearts. Too much work and worry can bog us down. Listen to the advice of Dr. Seuss, an expert in turning work into fun, “I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living, it’s a way of looking at life through the wrong end of a telescope and that enables you to laugh at life’s realities.” Do not let life’s insanity break your spirit. Find the humor instead.

Remember. Age is only a number. Your state of mind and heart define your true age. Do not assume that getting older in years means you need to become weak, sedentary, or sidelined. As French novelist George Sand (1804-1876) remarked, “It is a mistake to regard age as a downhill grade toward dissolution. The reverse is true. As one grows older, one climbs with surprising strides.”

Be determined to continue the adventure of life. Use your growing wisdom and self-knowledge to bloom over and over again so that even until your last days, others enjoy the fragrance of your life.

Here are some quotes to meditate upon this week:

“At twenty we worry about what others think of us; at forty we don't care about what others think of us; at sixty we discover they haven't been thinking about us at all.”

-- Author Unknown

“Beautiful young people are accidents of nature, but beautiful old people are works of art.”

-- Eleanor Roosevelt

“To keep the heart unwrinkled, to be hopeful, kindly, cheerful, reverent - that is to triumph over old age.”

-- Thomas Bailey Aldrich

With all my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Lessons from the Sewer: Unblocking the "Clogged Pipes"

2011-10-13T18:03:00.000-07:00

I am writing and there is a nasty smell in the air. My eyes aren't as bright today as usual.

Yesterday I realized that something wasn't quite right in my house. I followed my nose to the issue: our basement was full of crap (I mean that literally). For some reason there was about two inches of nasty gunk all over the floor.

Fast forward to 11 p.m. last night. I stand outside our house with a Roto-Rooter plumber watching as he investigates the pipes from the street and into our basement. "A-ha" he says. I got the clog. It is gone." I go in and flush the toilets and run the sinks and sure enough, it is fixed.

BUT, there was still a sewagey mess in my basement. I could have gotten some professional help to clean this up but I did a bit of research on the Internet. My husband and I fearlessly took on the mess ourselves. And, it was DISGUSTING. The good news is that we have cleaned it up.

It got me thinking. Too often we humans let our inner "emotional pipes" get clogged. Over the years, there is a build up. Rather than processing the "emotional waste" as we could as each situations arises , we tend to ignore the feelings and underlying issues.

When the blockage gets too big, then there is a nasty overflow. It is at these points that we can no longer ignore the mess and we must do the work needed to clean ourselves up inside.

Pay attention to your emotional flow. Journal. Write down your feelings each day. Or, confide in a trusted friend. Don't hold all the hurt, confusion, pain or despair inside OR - you may find yourself in an emergency inner plumbing situation.

Remember, some situations REQUIRE professional help. Get that if you need it! The mess might be stinky to deal with but once it is cleaned up, you will find a new, easier flow to life.

With relief that the mess is gone,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Find Your Inner Lion This Week!

2011-10-02T18:47:00.000-07:00

This week I share with you my rendition of one of my favorite parables. As you read, consider how different life might be in the last few months of 2011 if you found your inner lion. The story goes…

Once upon a time there was a flock of sheep living together in a pasture. One of the sheep looked different than the others. His name was Rex. The other sheep repeatedly told Rex that he was just like them. The adult sheep taught him how to act like a sheep—to graze, eat grass, and be part of the group.

For a number of years he lived like a sheep. He would “baa” even though often he felt the urge to roar. One time he did roar and the others made fun of him. He was embarrassed. So he decided it was best to “baa;” he didn’t want trouble with his friends.

When he admitted to dreaming of life in the jungle, the older sheep reprimanded him, “These pastures are good enough for you. Stay here where you are supposed to be.” He often felt the urge to move ahead but others told him he was causing problems. They liked to move slowly as a flock. Rex also wanted to journey independently but the flock felt that was ridiculous.

One day Rex was grazing near a stream. He approached the water’s edge for a drink. As he bent to drink, he caught a glimpse of himself in the water. That day, for the first time in his life, Rex really saw himself. He noticed that he looked nothing like a sheep. He was a lion! He was different, unique. He was strong. He looked regal with his fur coat and mane. For a moment he was overcome with excitement. This small glimpse confirmed to Rex that he was not just an ordinary member of the flock.

The next moment fear came up. Rex had grown accustomed to a life as a sheep. He was comfortable in the flock. What would the others think if he followed his heart and emerged as a powerful lion? Yet, Rex was bored. He was tired of living like the rest of the sheep. He wanted to break free.

Though he felt scared, courage began to build in his heart. Knowing his true identity gave Rex the guts to use his strength to move away from the group. He left the pasture. Freedom was finally his. He had found his voice and he roared at the top of his lungs. Gradually he became quiet in his confidence. He could choose to roar or be quiet. He explored the highlands and moved at his own pace. He found the rhythm of life he had longed for.

He finally felt comfortable in his own skin. At last, he was in sync with himself.

Many of us are so conditioned that we remain in groups even after we’ve outgrown them. We follow the crowd blindly trying our best to fit in. We are careful not to stand out too much so that we are accepted. We stick with the status quo even though we long to break free, to express ourselves in ways that resonate with our spirit.

We live prisoners to mental programming that has caused us to believe “we can’t”, “we shouldn’t” and even “we can’t follow our hearts.” And so we live in our heads playing over and over again the negative programs we’ve picked up along the way. We feel boxed in and miserable. Yet we wear a sheep-like smile to give others the impression that we are “doing just fine.”

I encourage you to look in a mirror this week. Really look at yourself. Look beyond the surface. Take time to see yourself with new eyes. Take off the glasses of self-judgment you’ve been told to wear. Ask yourself, “Who am I and how do I want to live my life?” Let answers come from your heart rather than from your head.

Smile as you see yourself. Let go of ideas of style and physical attractiveness. Instead, notice the uniqueness of your face. Gaze into the bright and sparkly gleam of your own eyes. See the genuineness of your smile. You are incredible, aren’t you? Enjoy this moment of self-appreciation. Feel your energy as you dare to admire yourself.

It’s ok to do this. You aren’t an egomaniac if you do. You are simply connecting to your spirit as it expresses through the body you’ve chosen for this journey. If you find yourself unable to do this, ask yourself why? Then see if you can’t at least find one or two things that you like about yourself.

Now, try to hear your own voice. What is it that you have not been saying that you have in your heart? What is it that you’ve held back for years because you feared others might judge you or mock you or even reject you? Imagine for a moment the way life might feel if you finally gave voice to your truth. As you look in the mirror practice saying those things that you’ve suppressed. It is time for your truth to emerge.

We are all born as lions. But then we are trained to be sheep – accepting without question, limitations imposed on us and sticking with the group. We plod through life even when we sense a strong, purpose and direction in our heart.

Roar, lion, roar. Break free, lion, break free. This is the way life was meant to be lived. You don’t have to stay with the flock in a pasture that’s dry and tasteless to you. Speak your truth, lion, speak it loudly.

Your assignment this week is to notice whether you act like a lion or a sheep. Do you follow the crowd hoping to fit in? Or, do you move at your own pace following the inner yearnings of your heart? Just notice. Don’t judge yourself. There is nothing wrong with the choices you’ve made so far. However, by observing these choices, you can begin to see new possibilities.

Each day this week sit for at least 1 full minute and look in the mirror. Get to know yourself in a whole new way. This time, do it without the judgments and labels others have given you. Who are you at your core? Feel the fire of passion burning within you. Open to this energy and embrace your freedom.

Freedom is available to you in each moment. Dear Lion, begin to choose freedom.

“A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.” Vernon Howard

Roaring with you,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

A Note of Encouragement for the Weary

2011-09-18T17:10:00.000-07:00

Yes, I admit it. I am exhausted. My plate is rather full these days both personally and professionally. I am making sure I getting enough sleep. Yet, I just feel worn down.

I have been observing myself, watching my thoughts very closely. I have noticed that if I live one small moment at a time, I am fine. I have discovered that if I begin to think a week, a month or a year into the future, I become tired.

The beauty of Life is that the only moment I need to live is RIGHT NOW.

I live this moment, then the next, then the next. . . as I approach life this way, I am able to flow smoothly forward. It becomes easier when I just take one step at a time rather than wondering and worrying over the next one hundred miles of the journey ahead.

I have been spending daily time at a nearby park. Nature has a way of renewing me. I have been sitting and walking amongst the grandest trees and dainty flowers. Butterflies show up on my path as do birds of many shapes and sizes. A brisk walk cleanses and uplifts my spirit. I am in awe of the simple treasures and miracles life offers.

So today, I give thanks for where I am. I am where I a meant to be. I choose to relax into that knowing and rejoice at how far I have come and how much I have learned.

I say a prayer for each of us this week, that our minds will be calm and our spirits will be renewed.

Rest and meditate on these thought-provoking quotes as you begin a new week:

"The great opportunity is where you are. Do not despise your own place and hour. Every place is under the stars, every place is the center of the world." (John Burroughs)

"Don’t be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs. Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger. If you do the little jobs well, the big ones will tend to take care of themselves." (Dale Carnegie)

"Inside myself is a place where I live all alone, and that's where you renew your springs that never dry up." (Pearl S. Buck)

With love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Master Basics - Then Get Fancy

2011-09-04T18:00:00.000-07:00

The problem today is people want to use high-skill techniques before they learn the foundational skills. To get long-lasting success, we must not take shortcuts or jump ahead in the process of learning.

Warning: It is ESSENTIAL to master the basics BEFORE you get too fancy.

I was thinking back to my years as a basketball player. As a 16 year old playing my first year of basketball, the coach saw how tall I was and made me a "post player." (For those of you who don't know what that means, it means I played close to the basket and with my back facing the basket most of the time. Think of a player like Shaq.)

My coach taught me only ONE move my first year. It was a simple shot. I would pivot and shoot a short bank shot. This worked perfectly for me since I was taller than most of my opponents and I could shoot right over them and score. Coach knew this. If I could make this shot consistently, our team was going to score loads of points!

But I was feeling frustrated. Players around me knew more moves! They could do fancier moves and score points with flare. I wanted to do that. I wanted coach to show me how to do to that too. But he insisted that I learn only the basics and perfect this ONE type of shot before I moved forward.

So, I focused. I shot and shot and shot. I missed a lot of shots at first. BUT, with repetition, I was able to use this shot and score plenty of points each game. In fact, in my first season of ever playing the game of basketball, I mastered this shot and was on my way to becoming the league’s leading scorer.

In my next season, the coach taught me one more new move – drop step, dribble, power up to shoot. Wow! Now I had a second shot, a fancier one. I worked on that one until I could do it well and score with it. Then I had two shots I could try out and it was exciting to have grown as a player.

At last, when I got to college, the coaches taught me some awesome moves (fancy moves with real swagga)—Up and Under, Hook to the Left, Hook to the Right--I even started shooting from the perimeter rather than just with my back to the basket. I was prepared for this new learning because my high school coach had forced me to master the basics. I had a solid foundation. It allowed me to make great progress. And, with time, I was a "flashy" player who could score with both basic moves and ones that wowed the crowd.

I am glad my first coach didn't allow me to move faster in my learning than I was ready for. He was wise. He knew if I became really good at the basics, I'd be able to easily grasp the exciting moves. I didn't like how slow he was moving in teaching me, but I see now, that his approach was the right one for my overall growth as a basketball player.

Be patient as a learner. Understand the basics and practice hard until you are sound at what you do (whether that is a sport, education, career or running your own business). Learning takes time. To gain a level of excellence in anything you do, you must work hard at it and remained focused. Complete the stage of growth you are in and do your best at it because it is preparing you for your next level of performance.

If you skip essential learning and try to bypass the next steps of your growth, you may sabotage your long-term success.

Do not be worried you aren't growing fast enough. Instead, follow this wise Chinese proverb:

"Be not afraid of growing slowly; be afraid only of standing still."

Steady, focused, persistent, determined, dedicated, willing to practice, giving it your all, striving for excellence: this can be your focus for the week. It certainly is going to be mine!

Have a blessed and joyful week ahead.
I'm here to support you in your personal and professional growth.

I am only ever an email away.
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Don't resist Life - FLOW!

2011-08-30T19:02:00.000-07:00

"Seek not that the things which happen should happen as you wish; but wish the things which happen to be as they are, and you will have a tranquil flow of life”

Epictetus quotes (Greek philosopher associated with the Stoics, AD 55-c.135)

When the river of life is pushing you forward and you decide you aren't going to move, you are going to be exhausted from struggling to stay where you are. If you try to swim upstream against the flow, you won't get anywhere. How do I know? Well, many times in my life I have fought with the river of life. I don't do so anymore. I have learned my lessons.

In the past week there was both an earthquake and hurricane Irene in my area. Was it fun? No. But it was an experience. As I woke my children in the middle of the night because a Tornado warning sounded for our area, I took them downstairs to a safe place. I sat in the silence calmly giving thanks for each one of them. A moment of truth: my children are alive, healthy and even in the discomfort of a horrible storm, we have each other.

No matter the challenge or the seeming inconveniences life brings our way,

there is learning to be found in every moment.

So, why not stop resisting what life brings your way and instead GO WITH THE FLOW?

Learn. Grow. Gain as much from the moments of life as you can.

I have found that when things don't seem to be going my way, it is the time I must pay the most attention: I am being taught something essential for the next stage of my journey.

Flow, flow, flow as life brings you forward.

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Thoughts on Ten Years of Marriage

2011-08-24T18:17:00.000-07:00

Words that come to mind as I celebrate ten years of marriage:

Determination. Ups. Downs. Highs and lows. Great memories. Tough ones. Breakdowns. Breakthroughs. Love. Patience. Acceptance. Compassion. Growing understanding. Space to allow the other to be. Maturity on both parts. Learning to listen without defense. Learning to speak one's mind when needed. Greater appreciation of one another. Belief in each one's potential. Willingness to give 100% support to individual visions and a joint vision for life.

Wow. Ten years of marriage. TEN YEARS OF MARRIAGE. It means I have grown and learned a lot. It means I have a better appreciation for the union of marriage. It shows that I still have a lot to learn, a long way to go.

Today, however, I just simply celebrate. I delight in the person I have become because of the loving support my husband has offered me through the years. He has always encouraged me to follow my heart and to live my dreams. He knew I could face my fear and self-doubt and be amazing as I lived my purpose. He has offered me wisdom, support and inspiration when I have been at my most difficult points.

I am blessed, blessed beyond measure.

I say to anyone who is early in your marriage -- hang in for the ride of your life. Anyone who says marriage is easy is not telling the truth. It is hard work. It is difficult and challenging. Marriage requires a daily commitment. It is a choice to stay together through thick and thin, through some of the toughest times you can imagine. I am so glad to have made it to this point. The depth of my love for my husband is greater than I could ever have imagined.

My prayer is to be the best wife, mother and person I can be.

Have a blessed week.
May you find and cultivate the love your heart desires (whether you are single or whether you are currently married).

Insights from Travels

2011-08-15T11:06:00.000-07:00

It has been a few weeks since I had the time to sit down and write a blog. The past month was full of travel for me. I made stops in Accra (Ghana), Lagos and Abuja (Nigeria). I met wonderful people. I had the chance to engage with many men and women that I mentor. I was invited to share some of my favorite topics with audiences like Harness the Power of Your Mind and Clarify Your Purpose and Live It. It was a delightful, rich time of service, work and play.

As I sat in Abuja one Sunday night waiting to go up on stage to address an audience at Holyhill Church Ideas! Forum, my mind flashed back to 2007.

I saw myself sitting at my corporate desk in tears, wanting so much to be free to live out my passion and purpose. I was so hungry for change. I yearned to be free. During those long years of soul-searching, I eventually connected to my calling as a speaker, success coach and writer.

Yet, after I found my calling, I faced fear after fear. The fears would rise up and tell me that my dreams were impossible. For some reason, I found the courage to ignore my fears and I carried on day-after-day, choosing to take little steps forward.

Each tiny step that I took had led me to the night in Abuja. I spoke that night on the importance of finding and living your purpose. And, what I said came from a deeply authentic place--I was living what I was teaching.

I am in awe of this journey. The more that I forge ahead, the more wonderful it becomes. It is not free of issues and challenges. In fact, I have many more of them now than I did even a few years back. I feel more joy and peace now even in the midst of difficulty because I know who I am and what gifts I am here to share with the world.

Tears came to my eyes that night in Abuja. They were tears of gratitude and amazement.

Each of us can take the time to find our deeper life calling. It takes some effort and some soul-searching. But, the payoffs of doing this inner work are life-long.

If you want to dig deeper into the topic or learn more, my book is a great resource. (You can purchase it on Amazon http://www.amazon.com/Clarify-Your-Purpose-Patricia-Omoqui/dp/0982912900 ). Or, I am here for you as a coach to guide you through the steps you need to take to create a life of deep satisfaction and meaning.

I pray this week that you experience a greater sense of possibility in your life than you ever have before.

With love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Keep Growing: Observe, Listen, Learn

2011-07-24T13:57:00.000-07:00

I am on an interesting journey and I am having a great time. Arrived in Lagos (Nigeria) a week ago. Headed quickly to Accra (Ghana) to speak at a conference. Will travel next weekend to Abuja.

I love travel. It is a stretching experience--from waiting in line for hours getting through immigration to dealing with a taxi driver who wants to charge me twice as much as a local--it is all LEARNING.

I am fascinated by life. I am in awe of my journey. And, I desire to keep growing every day.

My desire is to keep my eyes wide open and OBSERVE.

"What is really going on here?" I ask myself. "Why are things the way they currently are?" and

"Is there a way this could get better and develop more?"

As I take my morning walk in Lagos, I notice the trash scattered on the road and wonder, "How could this be cleaned up?" I see there are plenty of people who want to work. I see the trash trucks sitting by the side of the road not in use. The pieces of the puzzle all seem to be there. I pray and know that there will be a time when it all comes together into a workable solution.

I have been purposefully quiet this past week. I am doing my best to LISTEN. Young and old have many experiences to share. I ask questions to draw out this wisdom. As I do, I smile. I have much to gain from the perspectives and ideas others offer. God brings me the right learning partners at the perfect time.

Treat each conversation you have as a precious opportunity to develop yourself. Consider these words of Coach John Wooden, "Others, too have brains. A leader listens. Don't act like you're listening when you're just waiting to talk. People know when you're not hearing what they say. Sometimes we forget that we're not the only smart person in the room."

Your challenge this week:

Be open to learning. Be ready to grow. Take off your blinders. Look at life closely. Be full of wonder in your day-to-day experiences. Pray for a fresh perspective. Be willing to see the world around you from new angles.

Wishing you a fantastic week of personal development!

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Patience & Maturity

2011-07-07T18:09:00.000-07:00

We are in a rush. We want it NOW. "Why has my dream not come to fruition yet? I am trying so hard."

I have felt this. I have heard it from clients, friends and family.

"Am I doing something wrong? Am I off track? What am I missing here that is causing this delay?"

This sure has gone through my mind the past few years. And, I hear people around me doing the same soul searching.

The irony: every moment, every experience, every step, every waiting period, every challenge--is ESSENTIAL! It is not optional to S-K-I-P steps.

To get to the breakthrough, to have the culmination of your vision, you must be willing to be persistent and stay the course no matter how things appear.

There is Infinite Wisdom in the Grand Design of Life. How beautiful it all becomes and how interesting it is when we KNOW that every circumstance is for our highest good and for our personal growth.

If you truly believed the above statements, how might your approach to your daily journey change for you? Would you be more relaxed? Would you feel greater peace? Would you not be so hard on yourself?

Maybe, just maybe, if you do your best and stay focused, the rest happens at a natural pace. And, perhaps your satisfaction and enjoyment of the entire journey would increase exponentially if you knew that YOUR LIFE IS ON SCHEDULE.

You are maturing. With each moment, growing more and more. Invest yourself where you are. You may want to be on the big stages with the grand audiences -- and that will come. But for now, use your skills where you are and with the audiences in front of you. This time period allows you to further develop, to be truly prepared for the BIG BREAKTHROUGHS.

Be patient. Trust the process. Know that you are maturing.

All is well.
You are on schedule.
Simply live one moment at a time and do your best.

Written from the depth of my spirit and my experience,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Freedom

2011-06-23T17:42:00.000-07:00

I am clearing it all out. Yes, the junk and even some of the good things. You know that stuff that sits in your environment taking up space. You bought it for some reason but now you can't remember why. I am in the process of simplifying my life in every way. I am looking through my house. Every nook, every inch is being combed and re-evaluated. I am keeping those things that truly bring my life enrichment and meaning. The other things, I am letting go.

It is symbolic, I believe. This process is a cleansing as much within me as it is outside of me. The old energy, the remaining healing needing to be done, the pockets of anger and even shame--I am scrubbing my spirit as I do this outer ritual of realignment.

I feel as if burdens are being lifted and new energy is being found. I sense that my vision is getting clearer as I move all blocks out of my spaces. I am ready for new. I am clearly stating to God that I AM READY. I am willing to do my part, to take every step humanly possible in this moment and the next so that I am fully prepared for the next chapter.

How can the new enter if I have not been willing to clear the way for it?

That's what I have been up to. How about you? Ready for more freedom--both the inner and outer kind? Perhaps it is time to let go of the inner and outer "stuff" that holds you back. Start by noticing. Yes, sit and just be in your spaces. Look closely. Become aware of what might be stuck. Then, be willing to open to moving that which no longer serves you out of your life. When you are truly ready, you will take the steps to do so.

Experiencing more freedom,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

From Inadequate to Worthy

2011-06-12T17:24:00.000-07:00

I know a person, one who feels inadequate. She longs for personal change. She is tired of her boring job. She is hungry for new friendships. She desires to live in a fun city. She wants to feel happy, delighted about life. But, just as she opens the door to her dreams, she shuts them. She will not let herself move forward because she believes that she is not good enough, not smart enough, not capable of having what she wants.

As I hear her speak, I am astounded. My view of her is quite different. I see her as creative, spunky, full of possibility. She is a beautiful woman. She has talent. She has the power to do what she wants in life. But, she does not yet see or embrace this about herself.

As a friend and coach, I watch. I encourage. I wait. I know that one day she will wake up to the truth of herself. She is WORTHY. She deserves to enjoy her life, to feel peaceful, to believe in and love herself. I look forward to that day.

I know a day can come when more of us understand our own potential, step into our power and go for our dreams. Too many of us sit and suffer, wishing...waiting...hoping change will come. And, all that hinders us is self-doubt, fear, low self-esteem. The change we long for needs to happen inside--we must transform our thoughts of "not good enough" to "fully equipped and able."

I encourage you this week. Open your heart. Let the genie of your dreams begin to come out of the bottle. Write them down. Draw them. Add vivid colors and textures to your desires. Get them from your heart onto a piece of paper. Then ask, "What is that one next small step I could take to move forward?" You do not need to know the whole path. You just need the next step. Take that step. It leads to the next step, and the next step and the next. ..and before you know it, you are on your way down the path of a vibrant, enriching and joyful life.

You can do it.
If you need support, let me know.

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Beyond Shame to Seeing Commonality

2011-05-30T18:03:00.000-07:00

Just before hiting the runway. Empowered.

I had a fantastic time last week at the Women Empowering Women event in Philadelphia. It was a tremendous day of sisterhood, connection, and apprecation of what we as women share in common.

In the morning, there was an intimate discussion forum. More than twenty women from many different walks of life (CEO, Psychiatrist, Lawyer, Doctor, Life Coach, recovering drug addicts, formerly homeless) spent three hours talking. Powerful, transformative moments occured as woman after woman shared stories of challenges and triumphs.

It is clear to me that giving voice to our stories opens us to feeling empowered, to connecting with others and to seeing that WE ARE NOT ALONE. The stories shared during the forum had common themes of low self-esteem, body image struggles, rape, sexual abuse, betrayal, abandonment by parents and addictions. Regardless of titles, economic status or skin color, there was COMMONALITY. Each woman has her own story--a dynamic one of personal growth.

I cried. I laughed. I hugged. I felt it all very deeply. I shared my own story from childhood, one I hadn't shared in many years. It felt good to express what was there, shed a few tears and heal more deeply.

We are more similar than different. Don't allow your pain to cause you to hide. You are not alone. Your pain may come in the form of your unique story, but each human being has experienced some form of pain.

Find someone you trust to confide in. Voice what needs to be said. Get it out in the open in a safe place so that you can be heard. By telling it aloud you open the door to more freedom and peace than you may have right now. If you aren't ready to say it to another person, take time to journal about it. Find an outlet for self-expression that allows you to process the experience and move forward.

Consider these words, "If we want to change our lives, our relationships or even the world we must start by understanding and overcoming the shame that keeps us silent" (Anonymous Professor).

Your pain turns into beautiful colors woven into the fabric of your remarkable being.
Don't be ashamed, rather, become empowered. Be proud of who you are!

With my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.

P.S. I also got to have fun as a model in the fashion show. Enjoy the pictures :)

Getting Make-Up - how glamorous !

Striking a pose.

Strutting on the runway....too fun!

Sisterhood, Beautiful Women Connected

Harness Your Power: Allow Your Dreams to Mature!

2011-05-16T10:48:00.000-07:00

Last night I attended a family barbecue. One of my cousins is pregnant, in her seventh month. She is UNCOMFORTABLE! Sleeping is difficult, walking is challenging--she is READY for this baby to be delivered. Yet, she does NOT want the baby to come early. Why? Because in the last few months of the pregnancy, the baby develops and grows in important ways. The entire nine months is crucial for the baby to be born vibrant and healthy.

So, she patiently waits day by day until the baby is ready to emerge.

It is the same with our dreams. Our dreams need development. The ideas we have at the outset of our journey must go through the entire process of developing and maturing. If born to early, they may not survive. That is why we must trust the process of our personal and professional growth.

Each stage, each step, each moment is essential on our path of progress.

As an entrpreneur and visionary, I have BIG dreams and visions for life. I've had them for years now. I wanted them all to materialize rapidly. But, I've found that I can't skip steps in my self development or the maturity of my vision. I'm glad that it takes as long as it does. I'm more prepared than ever for new phases of living my life vision AND my vision gets clearer and fuller by the day.

I have clients who are entrpreneurial and they have incredible plans for business and life pursuits. Too often, they seem in a rush. They want it to happen NOW. In pushing for results, they often miss crucial opportunities to fully embrace and develop themselves in the stage they are in. I encourage them to be patient, persistent and persevere.

They will realize their potential and actualize their visions--but it happens over a period of time.

Don't be in too much of a rush o! Be diligent today, where you are. Take the key next steps with the resources you have right now. If you stay focused on a consistent basis, you will achieve things you never imagined you could. Just because you don't see the results yet, doesn't mean you should give up. You are developing as a person. You are learning important life and business lessons to help you get to the next stage of your plan.

Open to the entire experience. It is rich if you do.

Savoring the tiny steps of progress with you,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: On Love, Mothers and Life

2011-05-10T12:59:00.000-07:00

My lovely daughters Maggie and Skye after making chocolate cupcakes.

Mother's day was wonderful. My girls and I sure celebrated--and we did so on their terms (wink). Saturday evening Skye (age 6) said to me, let's celebrate Mother's day by having a sleep out on the living room floor. I suggested we'd be more comfortable if we slept in our beds, but she was SURE this was the best way to have fun. So, I relented.

We got out the blankets, extra pillows and attempted to be as cozy as possible on the floor. I slept on the couch and woke up with a wonderful back ache. I smiled when I felt the ache because I knew my little girls were happy and we had made a special memory.

In the morning we had breakfast with my mom Gayle. She is an angel. I don't say that lightly or from a biased perspective. Everyone who knows my mom is amazed at how giving, kind, peace-filled and wise she is. As for me, I feel as if I got the best mom on the planet. Not only did she offer me a mother's love and acceptance while growing up, she is also the editor of my articles and my book AND one of the best mentors I have ever found.

I am blessed. Counting my blessings is the best way for me to remember the richness of the gifts in my life. I have a devoted husband, a supportive extended family, two little girls who teach me to play more and I do work that I love. . . those are the highlights on my list right now.

I keep being reminded that it is the simple, priceless things that are the most wonderful. A Mother's Day card from my child with a handwritten note is more of a treasure than an expensive gift any day.

I am mellow today, just pondering some of the deeper questions of life and its purpose. So, perhaps the best idea for the week ahead is to stay fully focused in gratitude for every blessing tiny to gigantic. Don't miss out on any of it. Write a list right now!

Cherish the moment and treasure the ones you love.

That's my focus,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Life Unfolds in Divine Time

2011-05-01T13:19:00.000-07:00

The Great Hearted Dr. Femi Olaleye

I found myself with a big grin today. Let me tell you why.

About six months ago, I came up with an idea to write a profile piece for the cover of Vanguard Newspaper's Allure Magazine. The gentleman's name for the profile is Dr. Femi Olaleye. He is an accomplished doctor with a vision to provide low-cost, quality healthcare to those in Lagos, Nigeria, who simply can't afford it.

I followed the process I always use. The first step was to send Dr. Femi the interview questions. Step two was for him to respond which he did in a very short time period. The next step was for me to take his responses and boil them down to the proper number of words for a profile piece. I started working on it and met with my editor (my distinguised, English Professor mother) several times.

Then, something strange happened. No matter how hard we tried to get this piece finished, we just couldn't. A normally easy process for us became extremely tedious and difficult. We'd try to meet and then an emergency would happen. Or, we'd work on the document and the changes we'd make would be lost due to computer troubles.

I felt pressure to get the piece done. I kept stating to my mom, "We have to finish this piece. I'm embarassed at how long this is taking."

I kept Dr. Femi informed that we still had him in mind and we were gradually progressing with his piece. This went on for over four months.

My mom and I were both perplexed. It made no sense that we were struggling so much.

FINALLY, about five weeks ago, the piece was fully edited and submitted to Allure. Normally a piece like this prints fairly quickly. This time it didn't. Dr. Femi asked me, "When will this piece be featured?" I asked the editor and got the response, "I'll let you know when we decide to print it."

We waited. We waited some more. We continued to wait. I decided to stop asking and just let it print whenever it printed.

Today, I went online to look at the Vanguard Allure. Guess what (drum roll please)? Dr. Femi Olaleye was at last on the cover of Allure Magazine! But the coolest part about it is TODAY IS HIS WEDDING DAY!

That is why I smiled and laughed. God has a perfect timing. It all made sense. The piece was supposed to print today. What better wedding gift could a man get than to have his work featured on a national magazine cover ON his wedding party day?

Life is fascinating. Maybe, just maybe, it is much easier than we think. What if all we have to do is OUR part? What if we simply need to take the next step and the next and the next and leave the timing of the "BREAKTHROUGH" to God?

I feel certain that's the case. This is one story of a multitude that I could share with you that has led me to conclude that God's timing is best and is often full of irony and humor.

So, I say, "Congratulations, Dr. Femi Olaleye to you and your beautiful bride." She is lucky to have a man like you who has a heart of gold. And you, Dr. Femi are lucky to have a woman such as her. I pray that the blessings of God rain down upon your lives, flooding you with all good things (maybe even some amazing children).

Please take some time to read this profile piece and be inspired. His work is making a major impact on the lives of many Nigerians. If you feel so inclined, do reach out to him and offer financial support to further his cause.

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2011/05/life-is-more-than-designer-clothes-and-flashy-cars-dr-femi-olaleye/

Trust God's perfect time. Relax your spirit and KNOW that your life is unfolding at the perfect pace, in the perfect way.

Speaking of perfect, my column this week in Vanguard is titled Perfect "Imperfections." Yes, it might be an encouragement to read this too. Your seeming inadequacies may be doing more good than you realize. Read this and you'll understand why: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2011/05/perfect-%e2%80%9cimperfections%e2%80%9d/ .

Have a great week ahead!

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.

Harness Your Power: End the War With Yourself!

2011-04-25T12:05:00.000-07:00

When I began studying my thoughts several years ago I was S-H-O-C-K-E-D to see the amount of self-criticism, self-doubt, guilt and yes, even self-hatred. I was my own worst enemy and the harshest task-master I could be.

No matter how hard I worked, how well I did, how successful I became -- I STILL didn't think I measured up. Here's how the inner thoughts went:

"I'm not good enough. I should be doing better and geting more done in a day. I'm not a good wife, mom or manager. I should be further on my career path than I am. Why can't I keep my house cleaner and cook better? Look at what my Princeton classmates are doing already in their careers, I need to catch up to where they are. "

I discovered that I was draining tremendous energy with constant self-loathing.

I spent a few years being aware of these thoughts and working to consciously change my thinking. The work is paying off. I have grown in self-compassion and self-understanding. I have gained energy and felt physically and emotionally better as I improved my thoughts about myself. I am more focused on finding the good in myself and the good in others.

But, there are still subtle patterns that emerge. There is still self-criticism happening. I have learned to just observe the thoughts rather than buy into them. Last week I observed myself thinking, "Trish, you aren't getting enough done. . . you should work more, be more, have more and do more . . ." I watched this with interest. I had to chuckle! How could it be that after years of working to improve my thinking that there is still more work to do?

Well, there is. There are many layers to the onion of mental programming that I am working to re-program. And, I am willing to work on it because I see that negative views of myself keep me from being as empowered and energetic as I desire to be.

Why put up with any thoughts that cause inner conflict and suffering? I choose to keep growing. I want excellence in my thinking so that excellence spreads through every tiny bit of my life.

How are you doing with your thoughts about yourself? Tune in this week. Observe your self-talk closely. Is there opportunity for improvement? For being more loving and gracious to yourself? Write down what you find on paper so that you can see your thinking in black and white.

You may discover, as I continually do, that life can feel better when I am nice to myself.

Imagine that! What if we were all nicer to ourselves? I have a feeling that the world might become a more peaceful place if we ended the war with ourselves.

Here are some gentler thoughts (affirmations) to practice throughout the week ahead:

I open to loving myself more each day. I offer my best each day.

I give myself credit for all I do. I am growing and learning.

I am an amazing creation of God.

I am willing to be gracious to myself and others.

I release all need to compare myself with others. Instead, I walk my unique path.

I am empowered to live my full potential.

With great courage and honesty,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Break Your Vision into Chapters

2011-04-16T14:28:00.000-07:00

The genie had been let out of the bottle. It was stuck inside for years. When my fear moved out of the way, something magical came about. I discovered incredible passion inside me. The more I kept the self-doubt out of the way, the more the genie emerged. It grew bigger, wider, taller than I had ever imagined.

The part of myself that is made for greatness had emerged. It was READY for life, ready to work hard, committed to achieving my dream. My dream was to help people reach their full potential. I could see myself standing on a stage speaking, working with groups and individuals and writing about topics that could transform people's lives. I could see myself working all over the world.

Once my vision emerged, the challenge was that my dreams were INCREDIBLY VAST. Idea after idea rose up from my soul. I could see the way my skills, personality and passion could be combined to make an incredible difference in the world.

So, where would I start?

I needed to start where I was. What was that one next step I could take on the road to my destiny? Many times I felt overwhelmed --there were so many things I wanted to work on, so many projects I could start -- so which one would I begin?

I discovered something important: I had many years ahead of me! So, I could break my dreams into "chapters" and get started. I began by giving my next chapter a title: "Getting Started." I needed to build the infrastructure. It was time to create business cards, take needed training courses, get up on stage and build my network. I needed a website, a blog. I could take time to write on a daily basis and hone my skill.

One chapter led me to the next chapter. It has been and continues to be a personal evolution. The adventure is in the personal growth. It overjoys me to see that with consistent effort, results do come.

There are not enough hours in the day to work on all aspects of my vision so I take it one stage at a time.

If you feel overwhelmed and are unsure of where to start, try breaking things down into 90 day time periods. Of all the dreams you have, which one could you best progress on in the next 90 days?

Don't get stuck in over-analysis. Listen to your inner voice. Then, act on the guidance you receive. One small step leads you to the next and the next and the next. When you do this day after day, you make tremendous forward movement!

Use this motto: I take the next step forward from where I am with the resources I have today.

If you need support, I'm here as a coach to help you clarify the next chapter so you can get started!

With a smile,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.

Harness Your Power: Persist! Persevere!

2011-04-07T18:20:00.000-07:00

It is a joyful process for me as a coach when a client stays FOCUSED long enough to create the results they long for. This week I have seen an incredible "real-life movie" of a dream culminating into a reality for someone I have worked with for several years. It is AMAZING to be on the sidelines watching, cheering, and coaching the person forward.

To get the big dreams, you have to have a "stick-to-it-tiveness." Too many people, when the going gets challenging, give up. They may be close to the breakthrough but they become impatient or frustrated.

Consider this: What if that one next push allows your dream to be born?

Contemplate: Will you find yourself looking back with regret for not having gone the length needed to fully live your potential?

Persistence is defined as the quality of continuing steadily despite problems or difficulties.

Perseverance is defined as steady and continued action or belief, usually over a long period and especially despite difficulties or setbacks

I implore you to develop these qualities. Persistence and perseverance are a foundation for creating true success and satisfaction.

The roads, when they go uphill may cause you to feel out of breath, but in the process of climbing your body has been awakened and your lungs have been stretched. And, when you have reached the top of the hill, the view is quite incredible. Your spirit will sing.

A favorite new quote I found goes something like this, "The hardest part of getting to the top of the ladder is getting through the crowd at the bottom."

The people who move up the ladder are the ones who stay focused the longest and NEVER GIVE UP ON THEIR DREAMS.

With great beleif in your power to persist,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

p.s. I am currently taking on a few new clients -- people who are committed to optimizing every aspect of life -- people who no longer want to settle for status quo but who want to live full out! Please contact me if you could use my support.

Harness Your Power: Relentless Focus!

2011-03-31T18:36:00.000-07:00

Relentless. Focused. Centered in passion. Connected with purpose. Willing to do whatever it takes to experience the thrill of living one's dreams. Do you know how this feels?

I do. I never would have thought five years ago that I could let go my fearful, limited thinking to wholeheartedly live my vision. It's been a gradual progression. The further I walk down the path to my dream-life, the more committed I am to continuing my forward movement.

Moments, many moments, are tough. Yet, I push through. I persist. And, gradually breakthroughs come in various forms--often miraculous ones. In the moments when that inner fire feels as if it could give out, I am reignited once again.

I realize that my journey is MY journey. It's not like anyone else's path. So I need not be distracted with comparing myself to others. I must celebrate and be inspired by successful colleagues and KNOW that I am on the right path, moving on the right schedule forward to being, doing and experiencing MORE of what I love.

I'm introspective today. Just processing all of my feelings out loud is good for me. And, I share it with you to remind you that YOU ARE CREATED TO LIVE AN EXTRA-ORDINARY LIFE. Do so today without hesitation. No fear. Get clarity on what you truly want. Take that next step. Get the needed mentoring and support.

Live full out. Life is short. Wake up to your deep desires.

I'm here as a coach to support you in doing so.

Here are a few quotes to inspire you. Meditate on them. Post them in a place you will see them throughout the day.

DREAM!

"We all have our own life to pursue, our own kind of dream to be weaving. And we all have some power to make wishes come true, as long as we keep believing."

- Louisa May Alcott

STATE YOUR DREAMS OUT LOUD!

"When we are dreaming alone it is only a dream. When we are dreaming with others, it is the beginning of reality."
- Dom Helder Camara

BELIEVE. BELIEVE. PERSIST to the BREAKTHROUGHS.

"I have learned, that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours."
- Henry David Thoreau

Dreaming with you,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Cherish the Priceless

2011-03-24T04:38:00.000-07:00

This Sunday our pastor asked that our entire congregration join in prayer for a family whose son has a brain tumor. This four year old boy was rushed to Children's Hospital for an emergency surgery. They did not know if he would survive the surgery or not. He did. Yet, his family is being told that he has very little time to live.

There was not a dry eye in the service. We joined in prayer for peace and comfort for the family.

I've been sitting with this in my heart all week. I have been taking the time to cherish the priceless gift of my daughters and my husband. I am looking at them with fresh eyes--enjoying them with greater appreciation.

I have come to this conclusion: I could have all the money, the fame, the success but without a family to share this with, it would be empty. And, if I don't have the money, the fame or the success but I have my family, my life would still feel full.

I ask this week that you look at the people in your life with new gratitude. Look for the good in them. Find the love and connection and grow it!

It is truly love that brings a depth and satisfaction to life -- it's not the external "stuff" that does.

With love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Get Out & Network

2011-03-16T09:02:00.000-07:00

I went to a great event in Philadelphia last night focused on Women, Empowerment and Leadership. It was hosted at the Constitution Center In Philadelphia which is a fabulous venue. The featured speaker was Carla Harris, author of Expect to Win. She gave great tips for success in the business world. It was an evening full of inspiration. To top it off, I met some incredible new contacts.

Relationship building truly is a key to success. Having a quality, top-rate group of people in your life is a catalyst on your journey to ever-evolving success. It takes energy to get out and network. Remember, it's not about the quantity of events you attend. It's about choosing the right quality events to be part of.

When you get there, relax and be yourself. Shine. Extend a hand and get to know the people around you. You are a valuable professional. You have much to offer based on your unique set of experiences, skills, personality and connections. Look people in the eye with compassion and confidence as you shake their hand and greet them.

Last evening I went to the venue alone. I walked the room several times with a smile on my face, looking for those who I felt drawn to connect with. With time, I found myself in many interesting conversations--I met a fellow Princeton graduate, a top-executive who expressed interest in having me speak at an event and a distinguished woman who felt the need for a life coach after we chatted for a short time about self-confidence.

Now there is follow-up to do. It's time to connect with those I met via email and set a time to get to know them even better. I usually schedule a lunch or a coffee so I can deepen the relationship and know the person better. This type of connection often leads to an important exchange of information and contacts and allows me to make a new friend. Remember the words of Peter Drucker, "More business decisions occur over lunch and dinner than at any other time, yet no MBA courses are given on the subject."

So, get out there and get to know some new people. Offer your kindness and your contacts to others and you will find that others will do the same for you.

May growing success meet your path!
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.

http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: You Have More In You Than You Realize!

2011-03-08T06:42:00.000-08:00

I hit a point of exhaustion yesterday. It wasn't physical tiredness, it was mental and emotional fatigue. There are many aspects of my vision I have been working on. I do see progress but I do not yet see the full manifestation as of yet. I feel more challenged than ever before.

Yesterday was emotional. I stepped back and took time for myself. I needed to express my emotions and get clear about why I felt the way I did.

Today I feel better. It struck me that I have had these feelings before. During my college and professional basketball career, there were many days in practices that my coach pushed us. He asked us to do that one extra lap, that one extra push-up, that one extra set of shots. He demanded this in moments where we were already worn down after a long practice. And, each time he asked, I'd push forward and complete the task I was given. It was that "extra push" that allowed me to develop my basketball skills and physical conditioning to a point of excellence. Then, when I would play in a game, I would have more to offer in the court than many of my opponents.

This Sunday I did an intense workout at a local gym called Crossfit. The workout of the day was to row 1000m, do 50 "thrusters" (squats with overhead press) and then finish with 30 pull-ups. I did great up until the point I got to the pull-up bar. My muscles were trembling. I wondered how I would ever complete THIRTY pull ups. I didn't feel strong enough. But, I pushed through. I did one at a time, for thirty times. Thankfully, a few people who had finished before me came and cheered me on, "Trish, you can do this. Keep going. Just go for it." I did finish and afterward felt so good physically and mentally.

We are stronger than we realize. Each extra repetition, trial and challenge that life brings us is preparation for the dreams and visions we have. We may not like having to push through these times, but if we keep in mind that it is essential training, it makes it feel a little bit easier.

So, here I am today writing. I know I am living my life as best I can. I am bringing my best effort every day. I am fully focused on my vision. And, I am committed to being mentally tough, pushing forward to achieve my dreams. I want to do whatever it takes to live my full potential.

Don't give up. You are stronger than you realize. You must persist, persevere and stay consistently focused on your progress. As you do, you will be amazed at the muslces (mental, emotional -- maybe even physical) that you build as you work-out your vision day after day after day.

I was featured last week in a blog written by Ovation Magazine's Managing Editor, Mrs. Bola Obileye. Here is the link for your enjoyment: http://seriouslydoughnuts.blogspot.com/2011/03/meet-thought-dr-patricia-omoquithe.html .

Staying focused today,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power - How to Shine!

2011-03-01T10:11:00.000-08:00

Last Friday night, my daughter Skye's elementary school had a dance. Of course, both Skye (5) and Maggie (8) were determined to attend. Skye got all dressed up with her princess dress, nails polished and hair perfectly done. Maggie went in a more comfortable outfit. They both looked adorable.

The main lights were turned off and the disco lights turned on. The kids were full of sugary treats and ready to get their groove on. As a special activity, the organizers had arranged several dance competitions ---for the teachers, the parents, one for the boys and another for the girls. People were boogying down in these competitions.

Maggie and Skye both participated in the girls competition. There were 40 to 50 little girls dancing away to Beyonce's "All the Single Ladies". To my great surprise, the judges decided that Maggie was the winner of the contest!

Why was I surprised? Well, Maggie isn't the most skilled dancer and she probably didn't even have the "perfect" dance moves. But what she brought to the competition was total enthusiasm, fearlesssness and fun. And boy did she shine. There is nothing like seeing Maggie Omoafe Omoqui in action. When she goes for something, she goes all out.

As I thought about the dance this week I realized, it isn't usually the most qualified or the most skilled that get the furthest with their dreams. Yes, getting the right skills is a component of success. But more important than the qualifications is the attitude that goes with them.

If you are ready to shine, to go higher, to achieve your dreams, then I recommend you bring some "Maggie-Moo Shine" to your week. BE full of enthusiasm when you do something. Be completely fearless and just go all out. And, have some fun while you work hard. If you do those three things, you are sure to SHINE, to STANDOUT amongst your peers.

My daughters keep teaching me to be a better person, and that sure is the case again today.

Working on my shine with you,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Prioritize Health

2011-02-24T07:19:00.000-08:00

It was a long weekend. My two girls and I were very sick with the flu. I was literally shaking in my bed Saturday night while caring for my feverish daughters. It made me realize how grateful I am for what my mom did for me growing up. Moms rarely get credit for those midnight vigils they keep watching over sick children. Now it is my turn to do for my girls what my mom did for me.

I value health. Health is truly the foundation of a successful, satisfying and happy life. I used to push my body even when sick. I would rarely allow myself to rest and simply "be". Yet, the past few years I have come to value quiet times--and I have learned that they are essential to my well-being.

I listen closely to the signals my body gives now rather than "pushing beyond the pain." I've been intrigued by the aches, the soreness and the pain that has gone along with this flu. Our bodies are truly remarkable machines, aren't they. I am thankful that 99.9% of the time I enjoy tremendous health.

In the midst of not feeling well it seems that seeds I've planted for my career keep blossoming. I started writing a new column for LeVogue Magazine that appears every Saturday in Leadership Newspaper (Abuja). I did a radio interview yesterday at Ben FM 95.7 here in the Philadelphia area.

Seeds that we plant do grow over time. It is hard to wait and wonder...but I've learned to just keep planting and trust the process of growth.

I recommend this week that you make health a core priority. Listen to your body and give it good rest, healthy foods and some exercise. The health investment is one of the most essential there is for personal satisfaction--and a healthy body allows you to keep focused on living a life you truly love.

With my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Be Here Now!

2011-02-15T19:13:00.000-08:00

(Maggie & Skye three years ago)

I am continually reminding myself of what is most important. My health is the foundation of enjoying life. Being a good mom and raising kids who are loving, respectful and empowered -- that is essential for me. I also love my work: coaching people, speaking and writing bring a surge of joy through my body as I do it.

I've learned to schedule the my biggest priorities first. I allow the rest of my life to happen around them. I often say, "No" to requests for my involvement. I want to enjoy each day rather than feeling overburdened and overwhelmed.

I bring this all up because I wrote an article on Time Management this week. (No, you can't have a sneek peak!) I was reminded of some of the essential ways to stay organized.

As I wrote about managing time, I also remembered how essential it is to MAXIMIZE time. I want to love and enjoy every moment. I want to feel peace here and now. I want to bring my best self to the day. Putting worry aside, and any form of negative thinking allows me to do so. It is constant work to refocus my mind to the present moment. But, the effort is worth it.

This afternoon when I sat with my daughter Skye on the couch after she returned from school, I was awake to the moment. I gave my full attention to how nice it was that she was leaning against me. I took a deep breath and looked with wonderment at this 5 year old girl who is growing so quickly. Then, as she jumped up from the couch and started dancing, I smiled.

I recommend this week that you live fully in the present moment. Be here now! Engage those senses. Take in the fresh air and the beauty of the people in your life.

Working on doing this with you,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.

http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Be Patient

2011-02-07T18:21:00.000-08:00

I am practicing patience. Every day, I have a set of intentions and goals. And, every day turns out differently than I plan it to be. I am learning that my path unfolds in a way I never expect and in a timing that is far different than I originally planned. I also see that it is happening in a way that is for the best of me and my family.

The wisdom I continue to gain as I work as a coach, speaker and writer is profound. And, the more I practice what I teach, the more I realize that I am still in need of practice! I am fascinated by this adventure I am on. It is truly an adventure full of ups and downs, highs and lows.

Each experience enriches the fiber of my being. I am stretched farther than I thought I could go. I am learning to be more surrendered than I ever wanted to be. It feels good to keep growing and yet stay peaceful in the midst of many challenging circumstances.

I have come to believe that things do happen, the breakthroughs I long for do come, at the RIGHT TIME. I do not know what that right time is...but God certainly does.

So, this week I encourage you to trust your journey. Just have fun and enjoy this interesting journey you are on. Engage with life each day. Relax. Don't worry so much. Allow yourself to be present enough to enjoy the gifts of wisdom being presented to you in the form of HARD CHALLENGES. Yes, these are truly gifts as are the difficult people who enter your life.

I wish you a patient, peaceful week.
May you find joy in the waiting.

With love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.

Harness Your Power: Revamp your morning and evening routines!

2011-01-30T16:46:00.000-08:00

This week I will keep it simple and practical. In working with my life coaching clients I have noticed that many have formed morning and evening routines that often aren't supportive of well-being.

When you wake up in the morning, what is the first thing that you do? Do you turn on the TV, radio or computer? Do you open the newspaper or Internet news and start getting "caught up"? What do you think about first thing?

Most of us get the day started by filling our mind with fearful, negative media content. Or, we start the day worried about what is ahead of us. Then, by the time we get in the car on our way to work, we already feel drained or even depressed.

There are other great morning routines you could design for yourself. I'd recommend adding a few minutes of gratitude and deep breathing even before you get out of bed. In the shower and as you get dressed, be mindful of the amazing body you have. Experience the water, the smell of the soap, the various beauty products you use. The morning routine is full of sensation and you could actually enjoy every moment of it if you were more aware.

Now, review your evening routine. Do you fall asleep every night with the TV and the lights on? Do you watch endless hours of reality TV or political news? Just notice what you do without judgment. See if there might be a happier, more peaceful way to close the day. Could you make a list of your blessings? Maybe a great book would relax your mind and open your heart. Some soft classical music might soothe your spirit. There are so many new possibilities to consider as you make the end of your day something that opens the door to restful sleep.

You have power to create positive, supportive daily routines.
How might you change yours up?

Keep in mind how short life is. Just today I was talking to a friend. Her co-worker was diagnosed with a brain tumor. There were no warning signs. And, he may not have long to live. Enjoy today. Cherish your time with family and friends. Value the health you have.

With great love for you,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Listening...Renewed Focus

2011-01-17T19:00:00.000-08:00

I've decided to renew my focus on listening. I want to be more aware, more present to others. I see that often the greatest gift I can offer another person is my full attention. So, with clients, with my family members and with my children -- I am quieting my mind and opening my heart. I am choosing to engage my listening.

So, in light of all this, I offer a few suggestions that I am practicing this week.

1. Commit to spending at least a minute or two each day in silence. Focus on your breath. Simply notice your mental chatter. Understand the vitality of each thought. You might want to look at them as prowling tigers and appreciate their strength and beauty as they parade across the screen of your mind. Try not to engage them. Simply let them pass. Return your focus to your breath. If you find yourself tempted to play with the tigers, you might be in for a tussle. That’s okay. It’s natural. Just smile and go back to breathing. First practice this silence on your own. Then, when you find yourself in conversation, practice silence again. Quiet your mind and choose to focus on the other person’s words. Let your own thoughts pass by.

2. Observe yourself while in conversation. Are you able to stay focused while someone is talking to you or does your mental activity take over? Just notice. Don’t judge yourself. Become aware of the opportunity you have to grow your listening skills. Set an intention: I desire to become an attentive listener.

3. To increase your self-awareness, do a daily listening review each evening. How many times did you truly listen? How many times were you bored or uneasy? How many times did your mind take over? If your mind took over, where did it go? Here are some possibilities: To your own activities? To the past? To a criticism of the other person? To self-defense? Let this practice of detached self-evaluation help you grow.

I have much practice to do on this topic...and I'm approaching it with a light heart and spirit of adventure.

Why not join me?

With love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Deal with Past Pain

2011-01-10T03:16:00.000-08:00

A theme this week in my life coaching work this past week is the need to deal with past pain and traumas.

Too many people think they can suppress or ignore past traumas with no implication to their lives. Clients who have pain and trauma from the past (sometimes as far back as chidhood) who have not taken the time to heal, experience the effects throughout their lives. Their relationships are impacted by the pain. They often try to numb the pain with drugs, alcohol or some other form of addiction. They may feel depressed or get stuck as they try to work on their goals.

The key is to identify the areas of pain that you have been ignoring. In fact, write a list of the nagging issues from your past. Then, one by one, open to heal and move through whatever pain and emotion lingers. Until the past has been dealt with, it is very hard to reach your full potential and live fully today.

Journaling is an excellent way to begin this healing process. As you write, make sure you come from your heart not from your mind. Allow the emotions to surface. Give yoursef permission to write anything that comes up. Do not worry about punctuation or grammar. Just put pen to paper and say it like you feel it.

I wish you a week of healing!
If you need support in doing this, please contact me at thoughtdr@patriciaomoqui.com .

I'm here to support you in living your best life in 2011!

With love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Skills for Dealing with People (Children & Adults too)

2011-01-03T08:52:00.000-08:00

Happy New Year everyone!

(This is a picture from a few years ago...Maggie and Skye are much bigger now!)

I spent the last week with my children. I thought I'd share some insights and principles that I am practicing as a parent...hope you find these useful. I also use these same guidelines when working with other children and adults who look to me for support.

If you don’t have your own children, you can read these ideas substituting the child focus to any person who seeks your love and guidance. You might also consider these ideas as ways you can love and parent yourself.

1. Be fully present. Have you noticed that people are often physically present (the body is there), but mentally absent? Busy parents tend to feel that caring for their children means providing adequate financial support. That’s part of it. However, kids spell love: T-I-M-E. You may have limited time with your children because you work long days. That’s as it is. Make what little time you have with your children quality time by offering them your full attention. When you return home each evening, symbolically choose to drop your bag of concerns outside. Then walk in free to give yourself to the one’s you love. Put away your cell phone, let go of the day’s frustrations and tomorrow’s fears.

Look into their eyes. Study their faces. How are they doing today? Do they seem happy or might there be something bothering them? If you tune in, you will find natural opportunities to support your family emotionally. This type of support is priceless.

Some parents think that they can replace moments together with toys and other material things. There is no substitute for quality time. Remember, “Your children need your presence more than your presents.” (Rev. Jesse Jackson).

Affirm: I am fully present when I interact with others.

2. Listen. Don’t you find it helpful when someone is willing to sit and listen to you tell a story or explain something that’s bothering you? Isn’t it a comfort to know that another person will lend their ear as you express your feelings? Giving undivided attention is a way to show love. When we listen without interrupting or criticizing, we create a safe place for a child. Simply listening with acceptance gives you the wonderful opportunity of getting to know your child more deeply. Doing this creates a bond that children and parents (all human beings) desperately long for. Create trust and openness. Then as children grow, they can keep turning to you rather than their peers for support and guidance.

Affirm: I listen patiently and attentively.

3. Touch and comfort, hold them when needed. Studies have shown that a human beings need for affection is as deep as his need for food, clothing and shelter . Patting the back, stroking the hair, holding a hand while walking—each of these is a way to give a child a sense of connection and security. Hugs that last a few seconds longer than normal warm our hearts and soften our spirits. The Dalai Lama reminds us, “We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection.”

Affirm: I offer loving touches in wise ways.

4. Clarify family values (for your nuclear family and the human family). Come up with a few statements reflecting the character traits you choose to exemplify as a family. Here are the guidelines we use. As members of the Omoqui family, We respect others. We use our words wisely. We are kind. We share what we have. We listen. We are honest. It may be helpful to post this Family Mission Statement in a place where everyone can see it regularly. These are the values you will want to reinforce again and again and again. Of course if you are going to “preach” these guidelines you better be ready to live them. If you are not, don’t worry, your children will begin to remind you. (Mine certainly do!)

Affirm: I clarify and live my values.

5. Remember children are your teachers too! Dealing with my children pushes me to grow as a person. It is challenging to be a parent. Society doesn’t require certification as a prerequisite to parenting. Thus, we learn on the job. Be willing to see your children as learning partners, even teachers. Listen to their words of wisdom and acknowledge them. Applaud their curiosity, their love, and the joy they express. Let it inspire you to find a new found love for life.

You don’t have to be a perfect parent; it is simply impossible. We are human. Sometimes it is important to admit mistakes you make with your children and say you are sorry. This kind of honesty builds trust. As one wise parent said, “Live so that when your children think of fairness and integrity, they think of you.” (H. Jackson Brown Jr.) When we learn and grow together, we build wholesome, happy relationships that become richer and more satisfying with time.

Affirm: I honor others as my learning partners. I am willing to grow.

Your assignment for this week is to think of one relationship that is important to you, one that you really want to see grow. Now choose one principle and begin using it regularly in that relationship. Be patient with yourself and the other person. Consistent application of these ideas over time is certain to bring improvement.

I'm doing the same with you!
With Love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power - On Being Empty

2010-12-21T05:00:00.000-08:00

The last few weeks I have been struggling to find words. As a speaker and writer, not having the words needed can be quite challenging. I've sat down to write this blog several times and nothing, absolutely nothing comes out. It baffles me. Normally I have so much to say that I have to force myself to keep things short.

I have realized that it is normal to be on empty at times. Think of farming. A farmer prepares the field for planting, puts the seeds in the ground, grows the crop and harvests it. Then, the field MUST sit empty for a time while the soil regenerates so that it is ready for another cycle of producing crops. The same goes for us as humans. We need down time to rest and replenish, to regenerate and refill.

Why is it such a struggle to accept being on empty? I think it's because we have been programmed to feel we must produce at top gear all the time. We must get the results, make the mark and if you ever take a break then you will end up "behind everyone else." So you better not sit back and take it easy. That's the mentality I see all around me and yes, I see it in my mind too!

In a career that requires tremendous creativity, I am still learning that being without the words I need is simply part of the process. I see that when I don't know what to write it is fine, I'm not meant to write. I am learning to accept this emptiness and even enjoy it. I find myself sitting and meditating. I take time for doing things that require little creativity like washing dishes, cleaning out a closet, or enjoying a walk in nature.

The great thing is that the words do return! And, in fact, they come back overflowing when my body, mind and spirit have had the chance to be renewed.

If you relate to this feeling of being empty I challenge you to come to accept this. It's just one step in the process of growth and creativity. Love the times where nothing comes to you. Refuel yourself and be kind. Do not judge yourself or feel as if something is wrong. Everything is right on schedule. When the creativity returns, you will have a new crop to share with the world around you.

I pray that you have a magnificent Christmas and New Year.
I am here to support you as a life coach and to encourage you to reach your full potential.

In humility and love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power - What Feelings Are You Avoiding?

2010-12-09T04:16:00.000-08:00

I've been reading a new book this week called Women, Food and God. The key insight I've gained is that often people eat because they want to escape the way they feel. They turn to food to numb the inner discomfort rather than opening to whatever feelings they have.

Not only do people turn to food, they also turn to drugs. I have a friend who has said to me on many occasions, "It is easier to get high than to deal with my pain. My pain is so big that I can't face. But I hate the way I feel so I have to numb myself with drugs." Because she is unwilling to deal with her painful growing up years, she is adding even more layers of pain to her life right now because of her drug abuse and the drama that comes along with it.

I write all this as observation, not judgment. I can see how I have used work or going to the gym in the same way. Anytime the discomfort inside me called for my attention, I'd head to the gym to get lost in exercise or I'd open my computer and busy myself with assignments.

I'm learning more these days to sit with the uncomfortable feelings I have. To just open to them and listen to the wisdom they offer me. The painful emotions are signals that offer me guidance about my life and about myself. I see that when I observe and engage with these feelings, they don't overwhelm me--they TEACH me and help me to grow. In fact, a good cry or an intense moment of anger simply passes after I feel it and I come back to peace with a lighter heart.

Perhaps this week you could take some time to notice the ways in which you might be avoiding your feelings. Do you use alcohol, drugs, food, sex, tv, work or something else to escape the inner discomfort you feel? What if instead of turning to these addictions you actually sat in silence to listen to what you are being told by the emotion?

You may find more freedom than you have right now if you give this a try.

A fantastic holiday gift for a friend or family member is my new book, Clarify Your Purpose and Live It. It is a simple, rich, easy-to-read book with exercises to guide you toward a satisfying, purposeful life:

http://www.amazon.com/Clarify-Your-Purpose-Patricia-Omoqui/dp/0982912900/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1291896883&sr=1-2

Sending you love this week,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.

Harness Your Power: Focus on Progress

2010-11-30T15:55:00.000-08:00

There have been times on the path to my dreams that I didn't see major progress. I have wondered, "Am I headed in the right direction?" Yet, when I would look a bit closer, I could see bits of progress. Small ones--but I could count it as progress nonetheless.

Take my coaching practice. I met some coaches and knew in an instant that I wanted to be a life coach. It started with taking a course in California. Coming home, I created my business card. I began telling people that I was a life coach. A few people expressed interest and I took them on as unpaid clients.

I'd coach in my lunch break and in the evening. I coached in my car so I could have privacy. (My clients didn't know because I was on the phone and highly professional). I did whatever it was I needed to do to get myself launched. After months of free coaching, I realized I had a gift. Clients were expressing delight at the inner and outer changes they experienced. I determined a fee. The next client came along and I charged them some money for my work.

At last, after months and months of focus, I was a paid life coach. But, I was just at the beginning of building a coaching practice.

It was a slow start. It took patience--patience with myself and with life. Yet, day by day, as I kept my focus, progress did come about. There were many days that felt like literally nothing was happening. But in the days with no visible developments, I was making inner strides forward. I gained confidence and clarity about my calling. I researched so I was prepared to have an intake form and a way to keep track of the sessions.

I share this to encourage you. Go for your dreams. Stay focused on your heart's calling. You know what your passion is and you should never give up on it. Don't get discouraged if you aren't moving as quickly forward as you thought you would. Everything grows and unfolds in the perfect time. Your part in the process is to be dedicated, disciplined and enjoy each step of the way. Give yourself credit for every sign of progress and growth.

Delight in the smallest movements forward. Track them and smile.

My new book, Clarify Your Purpose and Live It, makes an excellent and reasonably priced Christmas Gift for the ones you love. It is a "life-changing" book as someone told me today. It can literally help you find a whole new level of purpose and meaning to your life if you read it and do the exercises.

Here's the link if you want to buy it on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Clarify-Your-Purpose-Patricia-Omoqui/dp/0982912900/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1291144319&sr=8-2
With love,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power - Gratitude and Reflection

2010-11-24T17:04:00.000-08:00

I have been counting my blessings lately. Each night as I put my children to sleep I say a short prayer aloud with them listing the many gifts we experienced during the day --from food to a comfy bed to our health and safety. In this Thanksgiving season I am consciously looking around my life and taking stock of all the positives. I am even giving thanks for the challenges.

My older daughter, Maggie, is such a special person. I celebrate her today because her diagnosis of Prader Willi Syndrome has given her a challenging life path. As her mom, I walk through each of these difficulties with her. She amazes me. She is fearless, confident and full of love. She does her best each day. She is a happy human being who only wishes good for others.

Being the mom of a special needs child is a rich experience. There is a sweetness to seeing Maggie develop. She has to work so hard to do some of the basic things most children do with ease. I see that there is a big difference in her life journey than in the journey of her peers. I constantly remind myself that there is no "normal."

Each human is here for a particular purpose. We come in all shapes and sizes with a variety of challenges. We are here to learn and grow into our personal best. And, most importantly, we are here to join with one another in love and connection. Maggie's special gift is connection. She has charm. People adore her immediately. Her rosey, soft cheeks glow when she smiles.

I have an angel in my family and her name is Maggie.
I thank God for this angel and for her sister angel Skye.

May we each find the goodness and beauty in our greatest challenges,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Enjoy the simple things

2010-11-16T11:43:00.000-08:00

It is easy to get caught up in striving to achieve the big title, more money and the recognition of others. In doing so we often load our schedules to the maximum, pushing ourselves to the point of exhaustion.

These days I am finding such joy in the little, simple things in life. From moments of snuggling with one of my daughters to enjoying a hot cup of tea -- these small gifts add richness to life IF we notice and relish the moment.

As the Thanksgiving and Christmas holiday times approach, I recommend that you incorporate relaxation and quiet into the mix. You don't have to rush around. You don't have to be in an over-scheduled frenzy. You have a choice to move at a slower pace if you wish, and as you do, take in the feel of the cold air on your cheek, the smile of a child sledding down a hill or the aroma of the turkey coming from the oven.

The gifts of life abound. How many of these marvels are you taking the time to experience?

I challenge you this week to slow down and breathe. Stop for a moment and take in your surroundings. Engage all of your senses and unite with the moment of life you are in. You may find your life is filled with treasures you have been overlooking.

Slowing my pace with you,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: From Judgment to Understanding

2010-11-08T03:23:00.000-08:00

The last week I have been observing the hurt and pain that is caused when human beings judge one another.

The woman being judged is one of the kindest, most accepting people I have met. Yet, several people in her life have judged her as "inadequate" and "incapable" of achieving her dream. They don't see the countless hours she is alone in her office working. They don't know and can't see the growth she has experienced through life's difficulties the past few years. All they see is that from their perspectitve, she hasn't "made progress" in the way they think she should.

Here is what the woman expressed to me, her words fuelled by anger and said in a frustrated shout, "I don't understand. I could judge them too. I could find all their faults and shortcomings. But I don't do this. I look for their best. I know they can change in the areas of their lives where they aren't doing well. I don't dictate their future by focusing on their past. I listen to them when they speak and try to understand their concerns. I offer encouragement rather than judgment. Why can't they do this for me too?"

So the story goes -- judgment creates misunderstanding causes pain and hurt, destroys relationships and in the end, does nothing good for anyone involved in the situation.

I sat last night and imagined the situation differently.

What if each person in the situation were willing to expand their point of view, to look at the good in each other? Couldn't they actively seek to understand their differences of perception? Wouldn't the variety of cultures and ideas that each person has bring a richness of creativity if they were all able to talk calmly and lovingly to one another?

I know this could be possible. The key shift needed would be for each person to move from judgment to a desire to understand.

Instead, there is silence right now from the hurt each person feels.

My suggestion this week is to notice if you are judging people in your life. Who do you see as inadequate? Who do you think just isn't doing well enough? Who has shortcomings? Write the names of the people that have come to mind down on paper.

For each of the people you have listed, answer this question, "What good can I find in this person? In what ways is this person a fantastic human being?" Jot your answers down. Notice that you can find good anywhere you choose to. The focus you have is always a choice.

Let's create a world where we offer understanding rather than harsh judgment.
After all, isn't that what you desire to receive from others in your life.
Give to others that which you long to receive.

With understanding,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: It's Not Personal Unless You Make it So!

2010-10-28T09:09:00.000-07:00

(No, that is not a picture of me!)

Too often we take what other people say and do as a personal attack. I've learned that other people are entitled to their own opinions, judgments and perceptions. It's up to me whether I allow what they are saying to upset me or if I see what they are offering as simply information to consider.

Here's a good story I found on the subject:

A tale is told about the Buddha, Gautama (563-483BC), the Indian prince and spiritual leader whose teachings founded Buddhism. This short story illustrates that every one of us has the choice whether or not to take personal offence from another person's behaviour.

It is said that on an occasion when the Buddha was teaching a group of people, he found himself on the receiving end of a fierce outburst of abuse from a bystander, who was for some reason very angry.

The Buddha listened patiently while the stranger vented his rage, and then the Buddha said to the group and to the stranger, "If someone gives a gift to another person, who then chooses to decline it, tell me, who would then own the gift? The giver or the person who refuses to accept the gift?"

"The giver," said the group after a little thought. "Any fool can see that," added the angry stranger.

"Then it follows, does it not," said the Buddha, "Whenever a person tries to abuse us, or to unload their anger on us, we can each choose to decline or to accept the abuse; whether to make it ours or not. By our personal response to the abuse from another, we can choose who owns and keeps the bad feelings."

Are you accepting negative "gifts" from others? You don't have to. You always have a choice of whether you take in what another person offers you.

Choose wisely. Each choise affects the quality of your life experience.

With a wish for peace,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Transform Self-Doubt

2010-10-19T08:25:00.000-07:00

You walk into a room. You start to think, "Do I fit in here? My clothes aren't as nice as hers. My handbag and shoes are last season. I wonder if they think I'm fat. I feel so out of place here."

You put on your smile and start interacting with the other guests. The voice in your head keeps chattering, "This person seems so accomplished. They seems important and well-connected. I don't measure up. I wonder what they think of me. Oh no. What I said didn't make any sense. Why can't I do better at having these conversations?"

Self-critical thinking can sabotage us. It keeps us from being relaxed and at ease. It hinders us from enjoying each moment of life. It gets in the way of a bold, confident approach to conversations.

I know about this kind of thinking because I have moments of it myself. I've studied my own self-critical thought patterns for several years now. As I observed my mind closely, I saw that I was my own worst enemy. I was harder on myself than anybody else. In fact, I'd never say to others the type of harsh judgmental words I would say to myself. I've learned that this type of thinking need not control me.

When my mind starts down these negative paths, I stop. I take a few deep breaths. I then refocus my mind on the wonderful, unique aspects of who I am: "I am a woman full of courage and love. I have gifts and talents, unique ones. I embrace and love myself for who I am. I stand tall and confident. I love learning and growing. I relax and choose to focus my mind on the good in myself and in others. I am here on Earth for a reason."

That new thinking energizes me. It ignites my inner light. It clears away the clouds of comparison with others so I can really listen to another person when I am having a conversation. I become more effective when I love and affirm myself.

This week I offer you a challenge. Take a day and observe your mind. Pay particular attention to the self-talk you have. What do you say about yourself? Are you critical? Write down any negative or judgmental things you have thought about yourself. Become aware of how often you "beat yourself up" in your mind.

Now, take your list of thoughts and transform them one by one. Consider the question, "What good can I see in myself? What gifts do I have to offer? What are all the great things about myself?" Write down as many empowered, positive statements as you can. If you can't think of any, seek some help from a trusted, loving friend.

We are each amazing people.
We become more remarkable as we honor ourselves in our thoughts.

Seeing the best in me and seeing the best in you,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Breathe!

2010-10-12T19:00:00.000-07:00

Stressed? Overwhelmed? Pressured and worn down?

Perhaps you could use a break. Why not create small moments of peace and new energy by switching off all electronic devices and sitting in total silence? You could go into nature to do this. Or, you could use the living room couch. You could even do this in the car.

For five full minutes breathe in and out as deeply as you can. Feel your breath moving in and out of your body. Notice how amazing this breath can be. Let it fill you. Quiet your mind and simply relax into the moment. Be. Simply be present where you are. Choose a one word mantra like "peace" or "joy" or "calm" or "relaxed" and focus solely on that word as you breathe in and out.

It is okay to disengage from everything and everyone and take a few minutes to refresh and revive yourself.

Just do it.
Just breathe.
Just step away from the noise (inner and outer).
Just give yourself a few minutes of delicious quiet.

You deserve peace.
Why not create it with this simple daily exercise?

I'm doing the exercise with you this week.

With love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: My Motto

2010-10-04T19:09:00.000-07:00

Simple ideas can create revolutionary change.

My motto has become, "I do what I can, with the resources I have, where I am RIGHT NOW!" I use this affirmation in all aspects of life.

Each of us has the power to create positive change in our personal lives, in our professional lives and in our nations. Yet, so often we get stuck thinking, "I just don't have enough money or time yet to make the personal change or the purposeful impact I want to make." I'm here to tell you this week, you do have what is needed.

Think of it this way, sometimes the greatest transformations come from the smallest things -- shifts in thought patterns lead to radical life changes. Often, a simple, loving act like listening to a friend can change the course of a person's life. Sometimes a smile to a stranger can change the feel of their day. Don't wait to create change. Start today.

Do what you can.
Use whatever inner resources you have if you feel that your bank account isn't low enough to use your finances.
Start where you are with the people who are currently in your life.
Do it RIGHT NOW. Yes, the call for taking action is TODAY!

Our assignment this week is twofold:

1. Follow through and take the next daily step in the road to your personal transformation. Make the phone call you know needs to be made. Write your vision for your life down on paper. Get your resume updated or get the business plan together. You know you are ready for great changes so don't wait another day to do one small thing.

2. Do something, some small thing with great love, to brighten another person's life. If you want to use money to do so, great! If not, get creative and show love in a cost-free high-impact way. Who in your life needs some extra kindness? Seek them out and offer them compassion today.

The small things done with great love add up to the lasting legacy of love we leave.

Post this simple motto in a place you can see it each morning so that you remember the power you have!

With love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Carrying the Legacy Forward

2010-09-29T04:10:00.000-07:00

I have experienced so many amazing experiences in the last three weeks that I am actually short of words. I feel full, ready to give birth to new ideas and even a new chapter in my life.

Yet, while I was away, my beautiful and loving 86 year old grandmother passed away. Her health condition had been growing worse so we knew that she would not be around much longer. Just before going to Nigeria, I took my daughters with me and we visited her for an hour. It was a time of joy. Maggie and Skye each wanted to sing a solo. Then, my grandmom even chimed in with some of her songs.

A day or so before my grandmother moved on she said to my aunt, "I am not ready to go. I have too many things left to do." My aunt comforted and assured her, "I will take care of what is left, Mom, you don't need to worry."

We truly do carry on the work of generations that have gone before us. My grandmother was full of love. Her gift was cooking and baking. She expressed this gift regularly during my high school and college years. I'd receive rice krispie treats, brownies, cupcakes, pineapple upside down cakes and chocolate cakes. I was quite popular on my basketball team because of these gifts!

She also had a way of making me laugh as she told her stories of growing up. My grandmother was pure in heart, genuine in spirit and simply loving.

As I write this week, my desire is to carry on her legacy. Her love lives inside me. It was a vital part of who I have become. She passed this love and acceptance to my mom and then my mom passed it to me. I see that it is now my calling to deliver the same love to my daughters.

A song she wrote was called Joy In the Morning. I pray that each of us experience deep joy each morning as we start each new day. May we feel God's enduring love in our lives and know that we are cared for and guided along life's path.

If I could, I'd bake you a cake in honor of my grandmom. I guess instead I will tell you in her words, "I love you, honey, and I am proud of you."

This Sunday we celebrate her life.
Today, I celebrate yours and pray that you are creating a lasting legacy!

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Inspiring and Inspired

2010-09-13T14:17:00.000-07:00

Where do I begin? I have had the richest few days of experiences. I landed in Nigeria on Thursday. So much has happened since then.

On Saturday I got straight to work by speaking at two events in the morning for young leaders. The audience was engaged and it was an honor to share some key ideas for Harnessing the Power of the Mind.
I was honored to receive the first ever Legend in Leadership award by Now Leadership International (run by Daniel-Adeniyi Obafemi, a fantastic leader.)

We then proceeded to Little Saints of Orphanage. Through donations, we were able to purchase a month's worth of rice and semovita to give to the founder of the orphanage. She was delighted. We also brought cake and cans of soda and had a party with boys and girls (little ones up to teens). We ate cake, sang songs, danced and even distributed Silly Bands to all the kids. The kids were beautiful. The orphanage receives no state or government support. It is run solely by private donations. They take children who are abandoned and left on the street. They work to find foster homes and adoptive families. Or, they raise the children until they finish college. Amazing work.

The orphanage needs monetary support as well as donations of food (rice, semovita, powdered milk and school supplies). Please let me know if you'd like to help! They also need people who are willing to foster and adopt the children!

On Sunday was a very special occasion. I was hosted by Timeless Magazine and Ayo Moses PR to a dinner for the Friends of Patricia Omoqui held in Lagos, Nigeria. The evening was full of comedy, good music, tasty food and a few words from me on the importance of shifting our national mindset to make Nigeria the Great Nation she can be. I felt loved, honored and quite humbled by the experience. I was given an awared by Timeless Magazine for the positive, empowered writing I have been doing to encourage Nigerians to reach their potential and step forward as change agents to improve the country.

Today was extra-ordinary! I spent the morning and early afternoon with the Disabled Athletes of Lagos State. I was with the para-basketball team. These athletes are incredibly resilient and courageous. They come from a culture in Nigeria where people with disabilities are seen as shameful and less than. Yet, through their efforts on the court, they are showing their families and their community that they have talent. I was able to let them know that they are valuable no matter how others percieve them. These athletes need wheelchairs for playing basketball. I am praying that donors will step forward and help fund these athletes so they can reach even greater levels of success on the court!

These athletes need wheel chairs (approximately 20 of them)! Do you know anyone who is willing to donate or do you have connections with organizations who work with para-athletes? Please contact me!

I love Nigeria. I am glowing with love and hope. There are tremendous challenges here. Yet, the opportunity for developing potential, creating solutions and empowering people is incredibly vast!

I end with my motto as an agent of positive change: I do what I can, with the resources I have, where I am right now.

If we each do small things each day to help others, we can make a visible change in our world. I pray you do so. I pray God gives me the strength to continue to help others in any way I can.

With my love for you,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Keep Stepping Forward

2010-08-29T18:47:00.000-07:00

Tonight I wrote close to 40 of my daily Food For Thought emails. I've written over 1,000 of them in total the past few years. It takes focus and persistence to do this every week for several years. (My years of playing basketball taught me this type of self-discipline.) I'm happy to write the emails. I've written these emails during dark, difficult days. I've written these emails during bright, exciting times.

I share this personal experience with you only to encourage you: follow your dream, offer your service and live your purpose no matter the highs or lows you are experiencing.

I know it can feel challenging to keep going, especially in those days you feel stuck or you see no visible progress. I've been there. I still have those days. But, I love the path I have chosen and I wake up each day and do my best.

Sometimes my best is just one tiny move forward. Other days I find myself running forward quickly.

Consistency is essential to fulfill your dreams. So, keep at it! Take that next little step to which you are guided. If you can take a few more, then go for it!

Your efforts will add up and pay off!

Believe in yourself. Stay focused on your dreams.

With Love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Say What You Mean

2010-08-24T04:36:00.000-07:00

Through some business interactions I've had this week, I am reminded of the importance of using our words wisely. Too often people say things and do not really mean them. They make commitments with no intention to follow through. Yet, the only way we have to build trust in our relationships (business and personal) is to make good on what we say we will do.

Say what you mean! Mean what you say!

A few simple examples:

If you say you are going to call someone at a particular time, do so! Be on time. Show people you respect them by writing down your appointments and making sure you call. If you can't call, give them advance notice that there is a complication and you need to reschedule.
If you are working with someone on a project or hiring someone, don't make empty promises. Only commit to what you know you can truly provide. It is better to under promise and over deliver than to over promise and ruin a relationship.
If you are having trouble meeting an agreement that is in place, it is best to communicate and let the other person knowin advance. Hiding, ignoring a person's calls and emails and hoping the situation will go away is NOT a good way to handle your business. Be courageous and honest. In doing so, you will gain more respect and you open the door to understanding.
If you don't know what you are able to commit to, then just simply say, "Let me think about what I am able to do. I don't know yet." It is better to go away and think about the situation before making empty promises.

Hope these ideas help you in your business and personal matters.
Be a person of your word.

With my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Love is the Purpose

2010-08-17T06:02:00.000-07:00

I've come to realize that no matter what job we have or what our "outer purpose" is in the world, LOVE is our true purpose. Anything done in the spirit of love --whether laundry or cutting the lawn or greeting a stranger, picking up trash or being an executive in a boardroom--anything done in the spirit of love can touch lives deeply.

This week, my simple focus is love. Perhaps, that is truly what my life focus is. As I center myself in love, more and more I realize that anything I do can be infused with color and meaning. I used to dread the daily trivialities of housework and paperwork and the nitty gritty tasks of dealing with life. But now, as I bring love to it and have a joyful song in my heart, I even see the amazing aspects of these ordinary tasks.

Open to infusing love into everything you think, say and do. It's a tall task, I know. But, if you begin to do so, life will take on a whole new look and feel for you!

Writing this short blog post with my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Loyalty and Collaboration

2010-08-08T18:39:00.000-07:00

Keeping the blog short this week. I will be honest and tell you I AM TIRED!

I've spent all week lost in the details of editing my manuscript. I am finally in the last stages of layout and should soon get the first sample copy of my new book, Clarify Your Purpose and Live It! I have learned a tremendous amount about book writing the last few years. I'm so grateful for this experience.

I am feeling blessed today that I have such an amazing support system around me. I have family that cares, friends that are understanding and helpful and business colleagues that are willing to collaborate. So many people have played an essential role in bring this book idea to manifestation.

Creating a team of positive, empowered people is a helpful (even essential) foundation for success. Take a look around your life. How is your support team? Are they draining your energy or lifting you up when you are down? Do they collaborate and cooperate or are the people in your life out to compete against you, even sabotage your success? Do you have people who come and go as they please or are do you have a team that is loyal and will go the extra mile?

Being surrounded by good people makes a tremendous difference in life. If you feel that you need some new teammates, why not write a list of all the traits you are looking for in enhancing your "success team."

Writing this list will give you a clearer picture of what you are looking for. Then, don't be surprised as you begin encountering the type of people you were hoping to find.

Wishing you a happy, successful, joyful week ahead!

with love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

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Harness Your Power: The "List Exercise"

2010-08-02T06:32:00.000-07:00

I thought I'd share with you this week a simple, but helpful practice I use on a daily basis. It keeps me organized, helps me prioritize my work and it also assists me in letting go of my worries.

In the morning as I start my day, I write two lists. The first list is all the "next steps" I am aware that I could take in reaching my goals and taking care of my responsibilities in my work and personal life. The second list is a list for "My Project Manager" a.k.a. for God. It is a list of all the issues, concerns and items that I feel are currently out of my control. By putting them on paper I am consciously surrendering the worry and declaring to myself that I will be guided and directed in the resolution of each item on this list.

Sometimes I take a third step and write out a prayer. This is a helpful way for me to express what is in my heart, how I feel about the successes and the challenges in my life and then, it allows me to release the burdens I am feeling.

I've been learning once again that spending time fretting over what is out of my hands only makes me feel sick inside. When I relax and trust that every seeming issue finds a way to a good resolution, I feel better and keep more of my precious energy.

I wish you a happy, productive and peaceful week ahead.
Give the lists a try and let me know what you think!

With love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: What Are You Weaving?

2010-07-27T18:08:00.000-07:00

I am almost done the entire manuscript for my book, Clarify Your Purpose & Live It! I'm sooooo very excited to be so close to sharing it with you. I love the topic of life purpose. I have come to realize that the main purpose for each of us is LOVE. In that light, I wanted to share a few thoughts with you on weaving a legacy of love into the lives of others. I trust these words will get you thinking deeply this week.

What are you weaving?

The ancient Greek politician and statesman Pericles said, “What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.”

So, what is it that you are weaving?

Take a close look at your interactions with others. I’d encourage you to answer each of these questions in writing.

Am I collaborating or competing?

Am I offering respect or discrimination?

Am I harmonizing or bickering?

Am I sharing or demanding?

Am I uplifting or criticizing?

Each of your thoughts, words and actions are the threads you weave.

Are you weaving something you are proud of? Is it that masterpiece you desire to be remembered for?

Each day is new and fresh. Each moment you have a choice of the impact you have on the people around you.

Embrace kindness, acceptance, compassion, understanding and giving and you are sure to make a tapestry that is splendid and leaves a lasting impression when your time on Earth is done!

Weaving a masterpiece with you,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.

www.patriciaomoqui.com

Harness Your Power: Enjoy Your Health

2010-07-21T14:37:00.000-07:00

Last Tuesday night I received a call from my husband, "Trish, I am on my way to the emergency room, I broke my arm." He had been playing soccer (futbol) with some friends. His cleat got stuck in the ground and he fell in just the "perfect" way to break his left forearm in TWO places. (Yes, that's him with my daughter Skye in this picture. Believe me, he wasn't smiling like this when I saw him at the hospital!)

I called my mom, "Please, can you come be with the kids so I can get to the hospital. David needs me."

Thirty minutes later I was on my way to the hospital. When I got there my husband was in the most pain I've ever seen him in. His arm was dangling in front of him and was rather crooked -- bones were in directions they shouldn't be pointing.

After hours in the emergency room and x-rays, David was admitted. Emergency surgery happened the following day. The surgeon came and told me, "I love a good challenge and putting your husband's arm back together was a good one for me." He was certainly passionate about his work, and I'm thankful for that.

Finally on Thursday evening I was able to bring David home.

Life brings many unexpected challenges. Watching the intense pain my husband has with every small movement made me extremely thankful for good health and a strong body. We often don't value this enough.

So, this week, I challenge you to notice how your body is working--wow...look at how those arms and wrists move. Legs carry you along life's path each day. Notice how many functions your body performs with any thought on your part! Incredible! Be thankful. Nurture your body. Pay attention if it tells you something is not working and get a physician to check you out if necessary.

Without a healthy body it is difficult to pursue our dreams or even enjoy the very basic, simple aspects of life. Cherish what you have! I had a moment of total love when I saw my husband after surgery...I was just SO THANKFUL it was only his arm that had been hurt. I can't imagine life without him.

I give thanks for loving, supportive friends and family. I appreciate surgeons, hospitals, and pain medications. I am so thankful my husband is alive and that other than his arm, he is in great health. I give thanks that all my bones are fully intact! So many blessings, so many.

Much love and wishes for good health!

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Breakthroughs Do Come!

2010-07-13T06:49:00.000-07:00

It's been an interesting few weeks. A few breakthroughs and openings have developed in my career. It's exciting to see the seeds I've planted bear more fruit.

I found out last week that my weekly column will now also appear in the Daily Dispatch, a newspaper in Ghana. And, my TV clips will appear on Crystal TV Ghana, on the show Trailblazers in Africa. The remarkable timing of it all is that I will also be speaking with Dayo Israel's Advance 360 Peak Performance tour in Ghana on September 25th! (Lagos, Sept 11th & Abuja, Sept. 18th).

God aligns my path. I smiled, laughed and even had a song in my heart to see this all come together.

These opportunities appeared suddenly in the most unexpected way! I've been envisioning these types of openings happening but had no idea how they'd come about or when. I realize that it is essential to persevere through the dark times, through the times when you can't yet see the fruits of your labor. And, even when you think nothing is happening, things are developing. The Divine IS conspiring with you. Will you have the faith?

I'm working hard right now on a book called Clarify Your Purpose & Live It! It's a short, but powerful book to help people look deep within and find what they truly want in life. I can't wait to release it and I hope you will buy a copy when it's ready.

I love life. I love people. I can't imagine doing anything other than living my purpose of helping people reach their full potential. I am simply amazed and overjoyed this week at the way the Divine works with us when we are willing to overcome our fears and stay steadfastly focused on our calling.

(If you want to hear me speak in Africa, check out http://www.dayoisrael.com/ to reigster. I will also speak with this tour in NYC on November 6th.)

With Love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Beyond Judgment to Love

2010-07-04T18:11:00.000-07:00

There is a deep pain in my heart. I will be honest. I was judged deeply and broadly and harshly by someone close to me. I felt angry. I wanted to lash out. I began to judge the other person in my heart, "Who is this person anyway? How can they not accept me for the path I've chosen?" Quickly, though, I stopped myself.

I've been through this pattern before. The "they-judge-me-and-then-I-get-angry-and judge-in-return" pattern. You've experienced this pattern, haven't you? It seems this is one deeply felt by those who are part of our human family.

Today felt intense as I moved through a range of emotions from pure anger, to frustration and heart-breaking sadness. Yet, I am grateful to this learning partner of mine. This situation challenged me once again to replace my anger with love.

What is the point of me judging the other person for judging me? I have to laugh. Think of these cycles we humans create! One person is angry and judges the other. Then, the other person judges the other person. The conflict begins and escalates quickly as emotional exchanges leads to shouting matches. Then people walk away from one another -- siblings against siblings, parents against children, long-time friends part ways.

What is this insanity we are creating?

What if, instead, the person being judged simply said, "Thank you for your perspective. I will consider it even though I don't agree with it."

What if, instead, the person being judged simply said, "No matter how you feel about me, I choose to love you?"

My prayer this week is that God will expand my heart beyond all judgment. That I will learn to take nothing personally but instead see even those who offend me and accuse me with eyes of compassion.

Will you join me?

With a humble heart desiring to learn,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Shifting Perceptions

2010-06-27T18:46:00.000-07:00

My kids started a local summer camp this week. At the camp is a young man who has a serious medical condition. The young man walks and talks differently than the others.

Skye, my 5 year old, came home and was laughing. She told me about the boy and said he was funny looking. Skye and I had a heart-to-heart talk. I reminded Skye that God gives each of us a special body. I asked her what it would feel like if someone laughed at her for how she looked. She didn't say much in response but I could tell she was thinking.

At the end of the week Skye proudly announced to me, "Mom, I was really nice to him today."

"Who, Skye?" I asked.

She replied, "The boy who walks different than me."

"I'm so proud of you!" I exclaimed.

In one short week Skye's thinking had changed. Her heart had opened and she was offering kindness rather than jeering.

Skye reminded me of the importance of loving others for who they are. Each of us is created unique, special.

Let us take the time to see beyond the differences to the desire each of us has to be loved, accepted and seen for the remarkable being we are made to be.

I created a video about this last year...I think you might be inspired by it:

New Vision: Love & Acceptance for All

Offering love to you for who you are :)

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Choose Peace

2010-06-20T18:35:00.000-07:00

Peace has been my focus this week. In the midst of uncertainty, I have learned that either I can be afraid of what's to come or I can choose to relax into the unknown. I've been relaxing. I've been affirming: I am always guided. I am clearly shown the best next steps on my path.

Life has a way of guiding us when we open our minds and hearts and trust. I've seen this repeatedly in my life. I have plenty of evidence of the unique twists and turns my path has taken. So, in this time I am remembering how I always am supported and cared for even when the path ahead appears cloudy.

I've gone back to the basics of breathing deeply, stretching my muscles, taking a walk and connecting with nature. I've looked at my children and focused on being child-like with them. I keep coming back to THIS MOMENT and finding the enjoyment available to me now.

Hope these ideas help you in finding some peace this week.
You deserve to have peace NOW !!

With Love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Step - by - Step Adds Up!

2010-06-13T19:58:00.000-07:00

Is it just me? Or, is time moving really fast these days?

I find that a day seems to go by as fast as a few hours. A week feels like it was only a day. I often sit and wonder how I will ever be able to make the progress my heart yearns for. It appears there just isn't enough time for everything I want to accomplish.

I have concluded that daily baby steps taken on my desires ADD UP! There are times when it feels like the little moves forward make no difference. I look ahead and the destination I am aiming for still seems so far away. Yet, with determination and passion, I stay focused and keep moving forward, doing whatever I possibly can each day to progress.

Keep taking your daily baby steps toward your dream. Don't give up. The effort you are putting in is worthwhile! Enjoy the entire journey. Each step provides essential learning for your soul's development. Be exuberant and joyful as you experience life.

Here are a few quotes I found that I thought might uplift you:

“Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.” (Mark Victor Hansen)

"Progress always involves risk; you can't steal second base and keep your foot on first base.” (Frederick Wilcox)

"Never discourage anyone...who continually makes progress, no matter how slow." Plato

Keep moving forward!
I'm moving forward with you,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Notice the Fear

2010-06-07T03:59:00.000-07:00

I am amazed at the number of layers of fear I have inside me. I've been working on my fears for years now -- looking at each one, studying it and letting it go. Yet, it seems that because I am willing to release all my fear, life brings me all the right situations to help me see what fear still remains.

There is nothing new under the sun. The humans who have walked this planet for thousands of years before me have all thought and felt these things. Those who come after me will feel fear too. Yet, each human does make it through their journey on earth. This being the case, what if we could skip the stress and anxiety piece of it and walk life in peace even int he difficult times.

Things always have a way of working out. I'd rather go through a struggle and not drain my energy. I'd rather feel well every day than have knots in my neck and stomach. So, I continue to devote my focus to understanding the depths of my fears. I'm learning about myself in deeper and deeper ways because of my willingness to see and know. I am always shown more insights. For this I am thankful.

On another note, I was fortunate to have spent time with a fantastic Nigerian artist, Nneka Egbuna. You really should check out her music. (http://www.nnekaworld.com/us/video ). Her lyrics are deeply spiritual and her music moves the soul. She made some profound statements about life and love that I am excited to share via my column in Vanguard Newspaper.

Maggie and Skye, my daughters, are big fans of hers because I play Nneka's music all the time in the car. They had the privilege of seeing her perform and then meeting her backstage. How blessed we are.

I pray this week that we are able to see the fears that bind us and keep us from feeling well. May we each identify those fears and may we be guided to release the fear and move into an inner knowing that All is Well...All is Well all the time.

(As a continuation to last week's blog, my neighbor and her baby are now safely checked into a six-month drug rehab program. It is a joy to see them launched into a new phase and I pray that healing and progress happen for them in these upcoming months.)

With my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Love & Spit Up

2010-05-31T18:08:00.000-07:00

I'm sitting down on Memorial day evening. I've gotten spit up on my shirt. It's been an interesting holiday.

I had no idea that I'd have an extra baby living with me this weekend.   It was Love's calling. A girl in my neighborhood who has a 10 month old son decided a week ago that she wanted to kick her drug addiction. I was out of town on my book retreat when the text message came, "You told me that when I was ready to surrender and move forward that you and your family would help me. I'm ready." I was in awe. This was truly miraculous.

This text message kicked off a tremendous learning process for me and several family members.

There have been many ups and downs. I've had moments of tremendous anger and sadness as she tried to run away and told me, "I'm taking my baby and I'm going to get high...I don't care what you think." Then, hours later, after she and the baby sat in the pouring rain with no shelter, we received the phone call, "Please come get me. I need help. I need to get better."

We have had special moments too. A few days into her withdrawal process she said, "I don't want to lose my son. I want to get better. I have to do this. Thank you for helping me even when I have pushed you away."

Little did I know that this weekend I'd have baby boy with me. Before entering a several month rehab program with her baby, this young lady was required to detox further under medical supervision and she couldn't bring her son.  Thus began our four day adventure. I was given formula, wipes, diapers and clothes.

My children loved it of course. Maggie and Skye enjoy playing mommy. I've cherished it too -- though I must confess that it has been exhausting and has really got me to thinking. What became clear to me is that when we offer love, we must be willing to go where love wants us to go and do what love needs us to do.  Sometimes this comes down to changing diapers, wiping up spit up and making sure another person's child is safe while they get better.

I honestly never would have thought that I'd be doing this.   I had planned to get an article written, to have time for relaxing and cleaning up the house. The Universe always keeps me on my toes. I am always surprised by how things turn out.

I met this girl only nine weeks ago in my neighborhood. I've been given a crash course in addictions. I've learned that until a person is ready to surrender, until THEY WANT to get better, there is no stopping them from doing what they want to do. I sat in the hospital one night after I got the news she had overdosed. I went there prepared to hear the news that my friend had died. But, she survived.

I write all this only to say that I have been reminded again that LOVE is patient, kind...it goes the extra mile, it does what it might not even want to do, it serves when and where it is called. I'm being forced to live what I teach day in and day out. I'm being stretched. I'm growing in ways I never anticipated and being given crash courses by the Universe on topics I never thought I'd be exposed to.

I pray often, "God use me in whatever way you need me today." And God never allows a willing servant to go without an assignment :) Perhaps God is chuckling lovingly at me while reading what I've written.

Let us all willingly follow where Love calls us.

Written in love and with a prayer for my friend and for all addicts worldwide to find a way to freedom,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

2010-05-25T09:19:00.000-07:00

When we feel unhappy about the results we are getting in our lives, too often we look to blame external circumstances. What if instead, we take a peek inside -- examine your mind and your thinking closely!

Small thinking creates small living. Empowered thinking creates empowered living.

The choice of thought is always ours. But we often don't realize this and go with whatever flow of thinking comes into our mind. Things like, "I'm no good...I can't do it....I'm never going to make it...I'll never find the love I want...I'm damaged goods nobody would love me....I'm just not smart enough, strong enough or good enough to get what I want in life."

Does any of that type of thinking sound vaguely familiar to you?

Take a peek this week. Look at your thinking. Examine it closely. Do so by writing down the thoughts on paper and asking yourself, "Is the way I'm thinking about myself and life helping me to create a life I love or is it keeping me from what I want?"

Be honest.

If you need some help in transforming your thoughts, that is my specialty.

As the Thought Dr., I believe that as we heal our thoughts, we can heal every aspects of our lives. It takes time and practice. It takes honesty and willingness. It takes dedication and discipline. AND once you get the hang of it you will be amazed at the way you bloom!

With all my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Flow with Life's Surprises

2010-05-16T15:56:00.000-07:00

On Friday I boarded a plane to Dallas, TX. This was to be the first stop on my journey to Albuquerque, NM. We took off at 11 a.m. Plane had already been delayed several hours. While in flight we were told the Dallas airport was closed. The pilot took us to Little Rock, Arkansas. The airport didn't have any free gates open so we sat in the plane for four hours until the Dallas airport reopened.

While sitting there for four hours, I had some great conversation with fellow passengers and chose not to look at my watch even once. I reminded myself, "I will get there when I get there."

Finally we arrived. I go to the American Airlines counter and I'm told, "All flights to New Mexico have been cancelled for the remainder of the day." My mom and I are given a voucher for a local hotel and find our way there.

To go with the flow or to fight with the reality of life? It was all out of my control. All I could do was choose a perspective that permitted me to experience peace and well-being during these unexpected changes to our schedule.

Friday we woke up, had breakfast and boarded a plane to Albuquerque. At last we had arrived. It was a relief and a joy to finally be to our destination.

I'm here in Albuquerque with the intention of finishing my first book. I came here last October with the same intention. I made great progress on my last trip but there was more that I needed to learn, ways I needed to stretch in order for the books to be fully written.

I will be honest and tell you that I have NEVER written a book. It can feel daunting at times. The self-doubt arises, "Trish, who are you to think you have a book to write and share with others? You haven't done this so how do you think you know what it means to write a book? What are you thinking trying to pull this off?"

This trip I have decided to put all self-doubt and fear aside -- the ironic thing is that is partially what my book teaches. It's funny that writing a book on transforming your thinking forces the author to further transform her own :)

I am enjoying the process. I've decided to release all timetables and inner pressure to GET IT DONE. Instead, I am spending the time in silence and stillness. I'm swimming, walking and sitting in nature. I'm resting when needed. And, I'm opening my computer to write anytime I feel inspired. One day, I am sure, this book will get done.

The cover is designed. The graphic artist awaits the final text for interior design. I remind myself, all things happen in God's time. I surrender myself to this amazing process. I never would have believed it could be tihs challenging. Perhaps I never would have started it if I knew!

So this week, why not GO WITH THE FLOW! Enjoy the unexpected twists and turns on your path. If you open to these moments rather than fight with them, you may find some wonderful life lessons and even a few joyful moments too.

Pay attention to your fear and self-doubt. Why not see your power? Why not understand the potential you have? As you let go of these harmful thought patterns and open to seeing the good in yourself, you may find some amazing things come about -- who knows -- maybe YOU will be writing a book soon.

With all my love
Please say a prayer of inspiration for me this week :)

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Power of Self-Talk

2010-05-10T03:43:00.000-07:00

This morning I will be speaking locally at a Mother's Day breakfast. I am looking forward to sharing insights with the mom's on the importance of self-talk.

We are typically our own harshest critics. About 7 years ago I discovered that my thoughts about myself were harsh, guilt-ridden and extremely judgmental -- "I'm not a good enough mom or wife. I should do better. I don't measure up. I can't keep up with others. What if I don't give my kids what they need? I am too fat. I am not pretty enough. I should be working harder, longer and doing more...." On and on and on the self-talk went.

From the outside people thought I had it altogether. But on the inside I was beating myself up constantly.
I was my own worst enemy.

As I began to study my mind I realized that beating myself up was only one possible approach. In fact, I began to see that I'd never talk that way to other people, so why would I be doing this to myself?

I began to review this disempowered self-talk and revise it. Here is what I came up with to replace the old thinking: "I am a good wife and mom. I do my best every day. What gets done today gets done. The rest can wait until tomorrow. I love myself and honor myself for trying so hard. I am a beautiful person inside and out."

With this change in self-talk I began to feel better. And, I began to find proof of all the ways in which I was a good wife and mom. The better I felt inside, the more energy I had. The more energy I had, the better I became.

How is your self-talk? Take a close look this week. Begin to write down any negative, disempowered thinking that haunts you. Write the thoughts down and study the impact they have on your life -- if you changed this thinking, how different would your life feel?

You can do it!
If you need support, I'm only an email away :)

With all my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

I have plenty of free positive affirmations at my website...check them out :)
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/freeresources-affirmations.html

Harness Your Power: Keep Your Focus

2010-05-06T17:51:00.000-07:00

I have been reminded this week through my own life experience and watching people arond me that we have more power and choice in our destiny than we realize.

It is essential to clarify what we want to experience in all aspects of life (spiritual, relational, financial, professional, physical well-being etc.) When we lack clarity we spin in circles and go on rabbit trails. We allow whatever life presents to us to become our focus rather than consciously choosing our direction.

Each of us is constantly bombarded with a myriad of people, places and opportunities. Those with clear vision maximize life by walking with their eyes open and seizing the empowered, positive possibilities presented. Those without clear vision often (consciously or unconsciously) accept negative, self-defeating possibilities and become derailed.

Here is a specific example. I know a young person who has issues with drug use. God has placed in his life positive people who want to help him to his goals. Yet also on his life path are those who still partake and offer him drugs. When focused on his vision of being drug free, he is able to avoid those people and / or be clear in stating he is not interested in engaging in drugs. When he is not clear, he spends time with people who are doing drugs and gets sucked into his old habits.

What do you want? What are you focused on? Are you allowing yourself to unconsciously spin in old patterns? Are you ready to break free and move swiftly to what your heart desires?

Take time this week to write down a clear statement of what you desire to experience in life in the next three months.

Keep your list in front of you. Read it every day.

Then, as people, places and possibilities come your way, evaluate whether or not they support you in reaching your vision.

If they don't, then make conscious choices to use your energy powerfully and purposefully instead.

I'm doing this with you! I'm actively focusing my energy and staying distraction free:)

It is a daily choice to do so.

With Love
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: All You Need is Love

2010-04-27T08:23:00.000-07:00

I want to keep things simple this week. I offer a gentle reminder that if you love yourself your whole life will change. You will blossom into the incredible, unique expression of LIFE that you are meant to be.

I have been seeing this in a 21 year old woman who adopted me as her mom about six weeks ago. When we met she was sad, depressed and in rather deep abuse and despair. In the past six weeks she has been transforming in the most remarkable way. In fact, she said to me yesterday, "Mom, I used to hate myself. Now, I am opening to self-love." I have been reminding her that she deserves to be loved.

I've been observing this change first-hand. Her faces and smile are brighter and she feels hope. She sees some new possibilities for her life. She has lots of steps to take to get where she wants to be in life, but she feels more energy and knows that she can do it.

All you truly need for radical life transformation is LOVE, deep love and acceptance for yourself. The more of this you give yourself, the more easily you will make choices that are good for you.

You can do it.
I send you my love, encouragement and support.

There is nothing wrong with you...you are created the way you are for a very important purpose.

Affirm this week: I open to loving myself more each day.
Say it with conviction. Offer up a prayer asking for help with this.

Miracles happen.
With my love,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Stay Focused & Be Patient

2010-04-18T18:01:00.000-07:00

Ponder this, “It’s the constant and determined effort that breaks down all resistance and sweeps away all obstacles.” (Claude M. Bristol)

Are you tired of the obstacles you encounter as you focus your energy on creating the life of your dreams?

Remember, the river flows gently and easily around any rock that appears in its path. You can move beyond obstacles like this too!

Perhaps you aren’t seeing progress happen as fast as you’d like and you’ve gotten frustrated.

Relax. Life unfolds in the perfect time. Be patient.

Keep focused. Day-by-day effort adds up. You are paving a new path. Of course there will be challenges!

Enjoy each moment of your path. Don't postpone happiness until the changes come. Enjoy today for what it is.

I wrote this message for me and for you. These reminders are very helpful for those of us who desire continued growth and aspire to reach our highest potential.

Have a blessed week ahead...and relax your spirit. It may be easier than you think :)

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Release the Pressure

2010-04-13T03:25:00.000-07:00

Often it is we who are the ones who put the most pressure on ourselves. I'm really good at this -- especially when it comes to writing. I've been working on a book now for several years. I've made good progress, in fact, I'm getting really close to finalizing it. Yet, there have been days when I am putting so much pressure on myself to get it done, that I give myself a headache and stomachache.

I laugh as I write. I know that my thoughts on the matter are causing the physical reaction in my body and the stressful emotions.

As I notice this happening, I stop. I step back. I let it go. I breathe. I remember that my best writing comes when it moves from my heart to my fingers and onto the page. I realize pushing something to completion and exhausting myself in the meantime is actually not how I want to live.

So, I am refocusing my thinking this week. I'm trying to rest my mind and let go of the pressure-filled thinking. A book is in my heart and will be born at the right moment. In fact, sometimes what is inside us must mature long enough so that it isn't born before it's time. I guess like a pregnant lady nearing the end of her last tri-mester, the feeling of "I just want this baby out of me!" is what I feel some days.

Whether you are writing a book, remodelling your home, dealing with your children or any other project going on in your life, I invite you to release the inner pressure and instead, let the flow of life move you through it.

The river of life moves us forward naturally. If we just stay relaxed, we move. If we swim upstream thinking we have to figure it all out on our own, we do exhaust ourselves (at least I sure do).

Life is on schedule. Perhaps we just need to shift our thinking and be a bit gentler to ourselves.

Here are a few suggestions:

I relax my mind.
I release the inner pressure.
I open to the flow of life.
I am on schedule.
Everything that needs to get done in a day, gets done.
The rest of my tasks and projects are there waiting for me tomorrow.
I rejuvenate my mind and spirit and body so I feel well.
From joy, my best work flow easily.

I send my love to you :)
We sure are funny creatures, aren't we ?

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

p.s. I'm taking on new life coaching clients if you are interested and could use the support.

Harness Your Power: Leave a Legacy of Love...

2010-04-05T17:55:00.000-07:00

So, I poured my heart onto the page for a new article I wrote for my column in Vanguard Newspaper (Nigeria)...I am giving you a sneak peek this week...it came from deep within....

Fast forward again. On March 15, 2010, I receive word of another shocking loss.

Taking the braids out of my younger daughter, Skye’s, hair should be a normal experience, right? It wasn’t this time. These braids were special. They were put in by a 16 year old Sierra Lionian girl named Mattu. “Why is this a big deal?” you might ask. Let me explain.

Several months before, I had met Mattu at a local restaurant through a mutual friend. She noticed that my girls’ hair needed braiding and kindly offered her services. We accepted. This opened the door to a friendship that grew quickly into shared meals and enjoyable times together with Mattu and her brothers and sisters.

Mattu became dear to us. We were very sad when she told us she would be moving to Florida with her family. On her last evening in our neighborhood, she came over for dinner and braided Skye’s hair one last time. We bid the family goodbye comforted with the promise of her return to Philadelphia for a visit in the summer. That was Saturday, March 13th.

Then Monday I received a phone call, “Mattu is gone! She was hit by a car and killed instantly.” I felt total disbelief. My whole body went numb. “What? Are you sure? This can’t be true!” The reply was simple and somber, “Yes, it’s true.”

Last week I attended a memorial service given by friends of Mattu’s in the Philadelphia area. I was struck deeply by the words of the many who shared their memories with the group. Mattu had touched each of them with her joyfully vibrant spirit. She is remembered as a happy young woman who loved friends and food and shared everything she had with her mother and her siblings.

Just yesterday I unraveled the braids that Mattu wove in my daughter Skye’s hair. As I did I was smiling through tears remembering Mattu, still touched by her generosity.

As I move through my days these past few months I often feel surges of grief quieted by waves of joy. I am poignantly aware of the fragility and mystery of life. A beloved father joined his wife in heaven after 86 full years; a beautiful young woman was called home by God at age 16. Both are remembered for the greatest legacy anyone can leave. That legacy boils down to L-O-V-E.

What do you want to be remembered for? Don’t rush over this question. Contemplate it. Meditate on it. Open your heart. Why not be make a conscious decision about the way you will choose to live each day?

Life does not come down to who has the biggest house or the most expensive jewelry. It has little to do with the highest title or the fattest bank account. Rather, it comes down to simple acts of love. Each loving gesture is a deposit we make in the hearts of those we meet. A smile, a kind word, a prayer said on someone’s behalf, a meal prepared with care, time spent listening, laughing and sharing in meaningful conversation—any act of compassion or understanding makes a lasting impression.

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I pray that these words have you thinking deeply about your purpose in life...Focus yourself. Enjoy each moment. Be YOUR best :)

Sending you love this week,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomqoui.com/

Harness Your Power: Share with Purpose

2010-03-29T07:09:00.000-07:00

I find that the Universe brings the most unusual people onto my path to serve. And, sometimes service comes in sharing the simplest things. There is a girl I met in my neighborhood who has a small baby. She needs food and encouragement. As I've cooked this past week I made extra portions. What joy this small offer of kindness and food brought to this young lady.

I used to think that serving others meant doing big things. But now, I am seeing that Mother Theresa was right -- it is small things done with great love that change our World.

I see that I can't take care of all the needs. So I've been guided to investigate the many non-profit organizations in the area so that as people come into my life, I can connect them to the resources they need. I am amazed at how many individuals and organizations care so deeply for the lives of others. I am happy to be growing my network so that I can be part of sharing my time, energy and resources with purpose.

What small things are you being called to do for your family, friends and community? You do have a calling. Open your eyes this week and ask, "How can I serve?" Be prepared. You will be guided to simple ways to show love to others. In doing this, you will receive so much joy in return.

Giving and receiving are truly the same thing!
In giving we receive. In receiving we give the gift of accepting another person's desire to give.

With love for you as we share ourselves purposefully with the World,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: You are Provided For

2010-03-20T17:04:00.000-07:00

I just had to share some of the amazing, synchronistic provisions I have been experiencing the last few weeks. To start, I had been wanting to have a birthday party for my daughter, Skye, who turns 5 soon. I went to pick her up at school and another mother told me she was just about to hand out the invitations for her son's birthday party. We were talking about the expense of birthday parties and I said, "What would you think of doing a joint party and splitting the costs since they have the same classmates." She replied, "That is a great idea!"

So, with virtually no planning on my part, Skye is having a birthday party next Saturday with all her friends. And, since we are splitting the costs, neither of us are spending much money! Amazing. I just chuckle in wonder at how God aligns my path even on these seemingly small life details.

Then, just today, I was out doing some shopping and I ran into a lady who I knew from my daughter's school. We got to talking and she started telling me about what she does for work. She works at a family center in our area and supports young mothers in learning how to help their children learn in the first few years of life. It just so happened that I needed to meet a person like this so I could introduce her to a young mom I know who needs this EXACT type of support. Again, no planning on my part. I was just walking my path, open to the possibilities and the right people appeared!

It is just incredible to notice the countless ways in which we are provided for. I am so grateful, so full of joy and peace because of all this evidence of how well I am cared for by the Universe.

Are you noticing all the blessings? Are you celebrating the "coincidences" and synchronicities occuring in your life? Pay attention -- you are probably having more of these than you are even aware of.

I send each of you love this week.
I'm here to support you in reaching your full potential and in feeling well.

Why not check out this video I made reminding you of the Free Resources of the Universe...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lbRoL66sYr4 .

All my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Flow, Flow, Flow

2010-03-14T18:21:00.000-07:00

I mistakenly clicked on a link that caused a terrible virus to take over my computer. As I type right now on another computer, my husband and his friend are working to correct the issue. I pray that they are able to clean it out--because, I haven't backed up my writing files for two whole months.

I had an hour or so of deep inner grief this afternoon thinking about what I might have lost. Then, I just had to laugh. I have been working on not being "attached" to results and even to "stuff." So, my attachment to my writing became clear this afternoon. I released my grief and came back to peace knowing that all is well no matter the outcome.

I am learning to flow, flow, flow with life. As I do I find it easier to grow, grow, grow in peace rather than in deep struggle. Letting go and being surrendered is one of the most challenging lessons I have (and still am) learning. Life keeps bringing me the PERFECT opportunities to learn. My prayers for growth are always answered in the best ways.

I attended a spiritual gathering this morning. Maggie and Skye, my daughters, attended. During the service the children went out and had a separate lesson. They came back in and went to the stage. They told us what they learned -- and this morning they talked about music. Suddenly, Skye had a microphone in her hand and she had told the teacher she wanted to sing to the audience. Tears rolled down my cheeks as my little girl (she will be 5 in April) stood fearlessly with a microphone and sang a verse of a Hanna Montana song! Hmmm, perhaps not the most spiritual choice for a service like this, but she got a standing ovation from many in the crowd. Of course I was on my feet cheering her on!

You just never know the opportunities that might be on your path this week. So, glo with the flow and be fearless. Stand up. Share your gifts with the world. I'll be glad to give you a standing ovation as you do.

With my love, with my prayer and with my encouragement to be your best,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
www.patriciaomoqui.com

Harness Your Power: Small Acts of Love

2010-03-08T05:30:00.000-08:00

In the words of Mother Theresa, “Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.”

Look around your community with new eyes. Are there any forgotten people around you? Take notice.

As you go throughout this week ask yourself, “What small acts of kindness, compassion and care can I do to help make my community a Great Community?”

Let us make sure that nobody is left behind on the train of well-being. Let us translate our desire for change into doing “small things with great love.”

Is there a child in your neighborhood who needs some new clothes?

Does a poor family need a meal tonight?

Might your gift of mentoring change the life course of a young person in your community?

Will you lend an ear to someone who is hurting and needs someone to talk to?
It's time to translate our desire for change into visible action!

What will your part be in the week ahead?

With Love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Write It Down!

2010-02-28T17:57:00.000-08:00

I find myself continually suggesting to clients to put pen to paper and write down their thoughts. Writing is a way to get the swirling thoughts that overwhelm us out of our head so we can see them in black and white.

Here are a number of exercises I regularly recommend:

Write down your FEARS! Just today one of my clients was struggling with some intense fear. She took the time to write all the fears down. It helped her to see the fear with a clearer mind. She started to see how extreme some of the fears were and was able to sit and study them more objectively. She even began to question the fears and see if there were new perspectives she could adopt to help her feel better.

Write down your burdens. If you feel heavy, weighed down by your personal burdens and the suffering of others, take five minutes and write a list of all the burdens. Then, take this piece of paper and file it away in the "Universe File." Give the burdens to God and walk through your day feeling peace and hope. Trust. If you find yourself starting to worry, remember that you already put your list in the biggest hands there are!

Take stock of all that you are experiencing. Often my clients will say, "I don't understand why I feel so drained and exhausted." I help them recall the many intense situations they are going through --whether it is an aging parent, a stressful situation at work, a financial challenge or a health issue -- these real-life difficulties can be intense. Give yourself credit for all that is going. Then, remember that when you have a lot of these situations going on at once, you need to take good care of yourself! Get extra rest. Eat well. Pat yourself on the back for your courage.

Write your gratitude list! Yes, please remember to write all the good things down that are going on in your life. No matter how small the blessing, focus on the wonderful things in your life. Generate positive inner energy by giving thanks.

Hope these are helpful exercises for you! If you don't like writing, then I would suggest you draw it or find some form of creative expression so that you can process your inner feelings. Don't stuff it inside or you will get "clogged up".

I'm here to support, help and encourage you.
With Deep Love for You!

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Heal those BUTTONS!

2010-02-21T17:37:00.000-08:00

I sit here tonight writing this blog after getting rather angry-- someone just "pushed my buttons." I didn't know I even had this BUTTON! I certainly am aware of it now. I am glad that I realize I have more of my own personal healing to do.

What is a button? A button is a spot inside me or you that is sensitive and when touched by someone in our lives, causes us to react. Often the reaction is quite strong and intense.

I often say when I speak to audiences that our buttons are quite an opportunity for self-growth. I sit here looking at my button, my reaction and the deep beliefs I hold that caused me this inner (and outer) craziness. Why do I over-react? Why do I get so upset? I am meditating on this and will be for the week ahead.

We want to blame others for our reactions -- "If HE hadn't pushed my buttons, then I wouldn't have reacted this way! It was HIS (or HER) fault!" I want to challenge this idea of blaming our reactions on others.

The illustration I often use is a wound on your arm. If you have a wound on your arm and someone pours salt in it, what happens? You would probably cry out in pain -- perhaps you would scream.

If you DID NOT have a wound on your arm and someone pours salt on it, what would happen? The salt would provide exfoliation for your skin and fall away. There would be no pain.

When we have these over-the-top reactions, it is because of what is INSIDE us, not what is outside. If we begin to understand this then we have the opportunity for learning some incredibly beautiful lessons.

Off to heal my remaining buttons. It seems that I find more and more. I am laughing as I write this ...what interesting human beings we are, huh? I have a long way to go and so much more to learn.

I am happy for the learning. I want to heal fully so that I can be truly peaceful, deeply loving and able to choose a response rather than give a knee-jerk reaction.

Healing with you...hope you will take stock of "your buttons" this week.

With Love,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Silence, Silence, Silence

2010-02-15T03:13:00.000-08:00

Silence is rich. I have been spending time in quiet, deep breathing almost every day for the past seven years. There is nothing like a few minutes of breathing to calm my spirit.

I've realized that no mater how long I spend breathing deeply, there is always benefit. In the middle of the day if I take a few breaths and stop my thinking for just a moment, I feel renewed. If I sit for ten minutes after the kids have gone to bed, there is great reward in this too. Longer periods of twenty to thirty minutes take me into a deep state of inner peace and joy.

When I need answers to my most pressing concerns, a few minutes in silence connects me to a Divine Wisdom. I find that the answers I need more easily emerge when I am quiet inside my mind.

If you have a mind that races with fear, worry, guilt, shame and stories from your past, perhaps it might be worth your time to sit quietly and breathe deeply. It may feel difficult at first because your mind will want to keep it's pace. If you persist, you will find that your mind will grow calmer and your body will feel renewed.

When I attended a seminar last year we actually ate our meals in silence. It made the experience of eating toally different. Rather than exchanging stories with other participants, we were solely focused on enjoying our food. They also encouraged us to spend one day of the seminar in total silence -- no speaking or communicating with anyone. It was joyful to do this, in some ways'a relief to be with the group but have no pressure of interaction and no need to say anything.

This week I encourage you to spend at least a few minutes a day sitting quietly and breathing. Just incorporate it wherever it fits into your day. Let your cares go for that time. Just focus on your breath and allow your body, mind and spirit to completely relax. You may find that you hunger longer and more frequent periods of silence.

I am doing this with you.

Much love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Do Something New!

2010-02-07T18:05:00.000-08:00

This week has been filled with fun experiences. Today, for example, I went sledding with my girls. The weather was perfect for it. With 12 inches of snow on the ground and a cold (but not freezing) temperature, we visited Valley Forge National Park for an hour of sliding down the slope.

Yes, I admit it, I LOVED every minute. I felt like a little girl. I wiped out in the snow. I felt the rush as the sled sped down the hill (somewhat out of control).

Saturday night as the snow was just beginning to fall, my husband and I went to an amazing concert at World Cafe Live in Philadelphia. The artist, Nneka, is a 1/2 German and 1/2 Nigerian woman. She grew up in the Niger Delta region of Nigeria. This woman's music is REAL.

Nneka opened the concert saying, "I'm not here to entertain you. I'm here to show you love. Take it or leave it." Her message is radical -- that we must learn to love not hate, that we must not overlook the obvious issues around the World. We must wake up and do something about it. (Check her videos out on YouTube...you'll get a feel for Nigeria if you watch the scenes...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kXMTtOS-oKg ).

I felt so alive after the concert. I was moved in my soul. What a fantastic experience to re-fire my spirit and move me to do more with my talents and my love.

I share all this to say, DO SOMETHING NEW! Get active and out of the routine. It's just so easy to get comfortable in a daily existence and forget that there is new music to be heard, physical activity to be enjoyed and interesting people to meet.

If life feels boring, shake up your energy and step out of your comfort zone.

Drive a new route to work.
Talk to people at the office you typically avoid and do so with an open mind.
Choose a new radio station to listen to.
Eat a type of food that would wake up your senses!
Those of you in PA, just fall on the ground in your neighborhood and make a snow angel.

We are here to L-I-V-E ON P-U-R-P-O-S-E.

I visited my 85 year old grandmother for an hour this week. There she sits in her chair all day long. She is content to listen to books on tape. She has lived her life. We took time telling stories of the days when she chased us as little grandkids. Then, when I was in college she would bake me and my Princeton bball teammates plenty of brownies, rice krispy treats and cupcakes (with hershey kisses hidden in the middle). What a wonderful way she chose to share her love with so many people.

As I left her I realized again that NOW is my moment to live. There is no reason to postpone happiness or enjoyment anymore.

Loving life (yes, even these big challenges),
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Thinking Storms

2010-01-31T16:45:00.000-08:00

Have you ever felt completely overwhelmed mentally, emotionally and physically when you begin to focus either on your fears or on intensely painful stories from your past?

I've decided to call these experiences "Thinking Storms."

I had a few today. Some of my old financial fears were activated. I sat and watched the mental patterns churn. I noticed the sick feeling in my stomach and tension in my shoulders. I could feel my breathing get faster. The nervous inner energy translated into tapping my hand and wiggling my leg.

A thinking storm was in full force.

What could I do?

I've learned the past few years that there are plenty of ways to move into the eye of the thinking storms. Here's what I did today: I moved into my Observer role and watched the thoughts, observing them in detail. I observed the way it moved through the emotional and physical body. I knew what was going on inside myself because this old pattern has repeated itself thousands and thousands of times.

I smiled as I saw it, even in the midst of the intensity. Then, I began with affirmations: "I am safe. I am supported. I am guided in every moment. I am blessed beyond measure. (Then, I listed every blessing I could think of). I am abundantly cared for by the Universe. I am healthy, happy and whole. Everything I need moves easily into my life. .."

The old thoughts kept wanting to take over. So, then, I moved into deep breathing. I watched the mental patterns swirling. I breathed and could sense an inner peace even as the thought storm seemed to intensify.

I just kept breathing and affirming what I WANTED rather than focusing on my fears.

My children entered the room. I shifted my thoughts onto them, noticing every little detail of their lovely faces. How beautiful they are. How full of life. I looked deeply into their eyes and saw the Spark of Life. I felt a moment of incredible joy and fulfillment.

They left the room and those thinking storms wanted to restart. I said a prayer and offered the mental burdens to the Divine.

Before I knew it, the storm had passed and my energy felt refreshed.

I wanted to share this with you because I experience the challenge of old thought patterns. I just deal with them in a much different way now. The thought storms do not have the same power over me. I can be calm as they happen.

Hope these ideas will be helpful to you!
They sure work for me and my clients.

Affirmations. Breathing. Gratitude. Mindfulness. Prayer. Handing over the Burdens.

Excellent tools to help you feel safe in the midst of the storms.

With all my love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: We Are All the Same

2010-01-22T18:37:00.000-08:00

I'm sitting here this evening unwinding from the week. I have CNN's Tribute, Hope for Haiti, playing in the background. I've been sitting all week watching the images of destruction and suffering from Haiti. In each woman, I see myself. In each child, I see Maggie and Skye. In each man, I see my husband and brother. We are all the same. We are so similar.

Too often we want to label and categorize, to separate ourselves by nationality, by skin color, by language, by religion. Beneath it all our humanity joins us, beckoning us to remember that we are love in our essence. We long for connection. We desire a better future. We wish for success and hunger for a sense of purpose.

As you walk through this week the challenge I offer us is to see the similarity. Don't judge. Join with others. See deeply into their eyes. Sense the energy. Notice the pain points. Watch the joyful moments.

In the words of American journalist, William Allen White, “If each man or woman could understand that every other human life is as full of sorrows, or joys, or base temptations, of heartaches and of remorse as his own . . . how much kinder, how much gentler he would be.”

May our spirits expand with compassion. May our minds focus on peace. May we seek to help one another and see the best in each other.

Could it be that our sole purpose here is to serve humanity? Could it be that we are here for love not material gain? Might it be that we are here to find a new paradigm of relating and joining with one another so that we decrease the suffering on our planet?

Consider these ideas. Meditate upon them. Look within and find what your purposeful part is....there is a specific reason you are here, a profound reason you are walking the planet. I pray you come to see how important you are to the whole of Life.

With my deepest love, a heart that melts and overflows with compassion and a desire to serve others,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Live & Love for Today

2010-01-18T05:00:00.000-08:00

In light of the recent occurences in Haiti, I have reminded that TODAY truly is the only day we have. We never know how our lives might change in an instant. In fact, a family friend died suddenly this week. She had no idea her time to move on would arrive so quickly. It did.

I was reminded of a video I created called Life Is a Dash . It goes by so quickly. Please watch this and make sure you live with purpose and passion.

Live for today. Love with all your heart. Move beyond judgment and drama and enjoy the people in your life. Find what you have in common rather than fighting over differences of opinion. Follow your heart and your dreams. Don't let fear or self-doubt keep you from doing what you love. Take steps every day to create a joyful, happy, peaceful life experience.

Observe your thinking. Choose to focus your thinking time on what you WANT to experience. Let go of past guilt and shame. Move into living today. Let go of future worry. Move into life today.

I am here to help and support you in living your best life.
I choose to live on purpose.
I choose to find the beauty in each moment.

Will you join me?

With my deepest love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Daily Dedication

2010-01-10T17:45:00.000-08:00

Have you noticed how quickly a day goes by? Days slide into weeks and then melt into months.  Since time moves so fast, it is crucial to consciously focus our energy on our dreams.

Consider this simple formula - Dreams + Dedication = Success

Why aren’t more of us successful? We all have dreams. (If you aren't sure of what your dreams are, check out my video - Write Your Next Chapter. )   Even if we know what we want in 2010, many of us lack the dedication to see our ideas through to successful completion.

How dedicated are you to your personal success? “Most of us serve our ideals by fits and starts. The person who makes a success of living is the one who sees his goal steadily and aims for it unswervingly. That is dedication.” (Cecil B. Demille)

Many of us start the New Year with big hopes and dreams. We may even take the time to write down our goals. Yet, few of us remain focused DAILY on the ideal, goals and desires we have for ourselves.

Consider implementing these ideas:

STAY FOCUSED. DO A DAILY DEDICATION:

To stay on target, I recommend you take at least 5 minutes each day, at the beginning of the day, to remind yourself what you are aiming for. Intentionally review your dreams and goals. Be clear on what actions you can take TODAY to take steps close to your dreams.  Say a prayer for Divine help, support and guidance.

TAKE DAILY BABY STEPS!

Yes, small steps add up. Do your part. Follow your guidance. Focus your energy.  Do the legwork that comes to mind. Though these steps might seem insignificant, they are essential in making progress to realize your big dreams.

HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE. End the day with DEDICATION:

Each day before going to bed, do a five-minute review – did you stay focused on your goals? Did you make any progress on them? If so, pat yourself on the back.

If not, what distracted you? Can you remove these distractions and disruptions? Renew your commitment. Say a prayer.

Use these three ideas every day the entire year. You will be amazed at the progress you can make with this type of clear dedication.

In the words of the great American football coach, Vince Lombardi, “A man can be as great as he wants to be. If you believe in yourself and have the courage, the determination, the DEDICATION, the competitive drive and if you are willing to sacrifice the little things in life and pay the price for the things that are worthwhile, it can be done.”

I'm practicing these ideas with my own dreams. They keep me on track.
I'm here to help and support you in creating a life you love.

Check out my video on Writing Your Next Chapter -- it might be just what you need to be certain you know what you want to experience in this new chapter of 2010:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mHXod9UABwI

Love,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Understand rather than Be Understood

2010-01-03T21:56:00.000-08:00

My life experiences are reminding me of the importance of understanding others and releasing the need to be understood. I've also been shown that one way to show respect to others is to NOT convince them of your viewpoint when they really have no desire to see or open to it.

I'm guided to focus this week on letting others be who they are. And not just to let them be but to open my heart in compassion and kindness to them even when I don't feel they are treating me or hearing me in the way I wish they would. In fact, the work is to offer to others what it is we desire to experience.

Give out the gifts of love, acceptance, a listening ear, an understanding spirit this week -- especially give this to those in your life with whom you have the most conflict. You may find that breakthroughs happen in unsuspected, miraculous ways.

One last thought is don't forget to set some New Year's intentions for your home and family life. We often set our intentions in career, finances, and health. Remember that creating a happy, loving, peaceful, harmonious home is essential to experiencing life in the way you want.

I'll share my family life intention with you: I desire to create a fun, lighthearted, peaceful, loving and happy environment. I desire that each person in my home feels completely loved and accepted. I intend to grow these relationships through thoughtfulness and being awake to opportunities to express my love.

May you experience peace and harmony with those in your life,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Key Questions for 2010

2009-12-28T05:07:00.000-08:00

As you finish 2009 and enter 2010, I want you to consider some key questions to help you get clear:

Who am I?
What characteristics do I choose to cultivate and embody?
What do I want in every aspect of my life?
How do I desire to feel when I wake up each day?
How do I desire to be in my relationships?

Please find an hour this week to sit silently and meditate on these questions. Open your heart. Release all limitations. You are not your past -- you are who you choose to be in THIS Moment!

Use these questions to become clear on a listen of your Daily Resolutions for 2010. To reach New Year's Resolution takes a day-by-day commitment. Write your Daily Resolutions for 2010 and then post them in a place you will see them every morning when you wake up and every night before you sleep. I'd even suggest you carry a copy with you in your pocket to be a constant reminder to you.

You can be any person you want to be.
You can create the type of life you truly desire.

Take time to answer these questions and get clear...those who are clear are much more likely to experience what they want in life!

Much love to you,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/

Harness Your Power: Give Yourself the BEST Gift!

2009-12-21T03:59:00.000-08:00

The most important gift we can give ourselves is Self-Love and Acceptance. How might your life change if you moved beyond all self-doubt and self-criticism and decided to simply, unconditionally value yourself?

Here are a few ideas to help you:

To overcome your self doubt, the first and most important step is to become fully aware of your self-criticism. Take today and really study your thoughts. Why is it that you doubt yourself? What is it that you believe about yourself that causes you to think you aren’t as good as other people or that you can’t attain the level of success you desire?

To really get beyond self-doubt, you need to know why you doubt yourself.

Observe your thoughts. Write down on paper what you think so that you can see it clearly.

Next, ask yourself, “Where did these thoughts come from?” Look closely and try to get a sense of who told you this about yourself or why you decided this was true.

You may begin to see that your parents, siblings, teachers, friends etc. convinced you years ago that you aren’t good enough or you don’t have what it takes for success.

QUESTION THIS!

You are born with intrinsic value and a unique set of gifts. How could the Creator make mistakes in how you were created? You are an incredible person, one with great power. To activate your power and potential you must open to knowing your personal value. Value doesn’t come from what you achieve or what possessions you have. You ARE valuable already. Once you know this, everything in your life will begin to change.

Remember that these old thoughts of self-doubt are habits. You’ve been practicing this type of thinking for many years. So, it will take some effort to create a new set of thinking habits.

Here are some new possibilities:

I am amazing.

I am valuable.

I am important.

I am here for a reason.

I am gifted.

I am talented.

I am strong.

I am full of love.

I enjoy life.

I have fun all the time.

I am kind to others.

I am smart.

I am a leader.

I lead by example.

I listen to my heart

I respect others.

I speak my truth.

I am honest.

I love to read and learn.

I make the World a better place.

That’s enough to get you started.

To move beyond this self-doubt will take some effort on your part. But, if you do, the rewards will pay off in HUGE dividends for the rest of your life.

I have written many articles on the topic of self-esteem. If you want more of this type of writing from me, send me an email at allure@patriciaomoqui.com and let me know you want to move beyond self-doubt.

If you want to share your observations of your thoughts with me, then drop me another email and tell me what you’ve discovered. I can help you find alternate thinking that will empower you in 2010.

Also, I have a free daily email list that can support you in seeing yourself in a more positive way. Go to my website www.patriciaomoqui.com and put your email in the red box called Food For Thought if you are interested in receiving these.

Blessings and Love,

Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.

www.patriciaomoqui.com

Harness Your Power: Joy & Passion

2009-12-13T17:38:00.000-08:00

Today I write in honor of my oldest daughter, Maggie. This Tuesday Miss Maggie Moo will turn 7 years old. I'm amazed at how quickly these years have gone by.

For those of you who know me well, you are aware that I call Maggie my greatest teacher. It was her arrival in my life that caused me to do some deep soul searching. At three months of age we were told that Maggie was a floppy baby. She underwent every test thinkable only for us to be told they didn't know why she had low muscle tone. We were left in total uncertainty -- told that Maggie might not walk, talk or be "normal."

I celebrate my daughter today! She can walk. She struggles still getting up the stairs. She can talk. She still has speech therapy and is not as understandable as other kids her age. She has developmental delays and yet is learning to read, write and do simple math problems. She is tenacious. She never gives up on learning. Thankfully she is a born teacher. Whatever she does in the classroom at school she carries home to instruct her baby dolls all evening long.

My daughter was officially diagnosed with Prader Willi Syndrome when she was 5 years old. I'm learning that this syndrome has a wide range of possibilities for a person's life. I'm coming to understand that we have no idea what her future will bring so we need not spend our time worrying about it or wondering. Maggie has taught me to live in the present moment and embrace life wholeheartedly. That is how she lives. She doesn't even know that she has this syndrome. She simply lives with zest and freedom.

I give thanks today for physical therapists, occupational therapists, speech therapists, doctors, nurses and supportive family and friends who have helped us make so much progress. Maggie is resilient. She is smart with a very sharp set of ears --she NEVER misses a word that is said and we are often shocked when she reminds us of what we said!

I look back now and see that if I had spent the last 7 years in worry, I would have been miserable. Instead, I have focused on the beauty in Maggie. I've accepted her journey as HER journey, not one to be measured against other children. I have celebrate each step of progress and watched in wonder at how she always has kept a happy spirit and a brilliant smile.

Maggie follows her passion. She loves to teach. She told her pre-school teacher one day that she was going to take her job and that her teacher would have to go get a job at McDonalds! That is how serious Maggie is about her teaching. For her birthday she asked for a white board and markers. Since opening her gift yesterday she has been using the white board to further instruct her babies.

I am in awe as I watch her. She jumps for joy almost every day. She loves life. She loves others. She is kind. She is helpful and motherly. She is all that I could ever have asked for in a daughter.

Here is what I want to say to her this week: "Thank you Miss Maggie for stimulating me to be joyful and follow my passion. It is because of you that I am an inspirational speaker, life coach and writer. I love you. I am in awe of you, Mom"

Please, in honor of Maggie and because life is so short, follow your passion. Do what comes naturally. Remember what makes you tick, what you can't get enough of and begin to incorporate it into your life.

And, this week, please find at least one opportunity to jump up and down and celebrate life like my dearest daughter. Notice that as you do this you MUST smile. Jumping for joy is fun.

Living with joy and passion,
Patricia Omoqui, The Thought Dr.
http://www.patriciaomoqui.com/